He likes me... BUT!!!!, Confusing.. :S Options

[dysfunctional_he...]

Well... this whole situation is a little immature, buttt...

About a month ago, I was with two of my friends, and we met this guy at the fair. He seemed interested in my two friends [who are WAYYYYYYY more prettier than me]. So... I went on the rides alone, while they went with the guy. During one of the rides, I lost my glasses. The guy, said that, if he found them, he'd give them to one my friends. I was supposed to get his email address before he left, but that didn't happen. The next day, I phoned my friend, and got his email address. I emailed him.. with my number, and the next day, he phoned me.

We've been talking ever since, and finally, I told him that I liked him, just straight out told him. He said he liked me too.

So yesterday, when I was online [so was the guy], my friend [one of the ones at the fair] came online. When she signed on, she didn't talk to me, but finally, after an hour of her not talking to me, she popped up randomly, and said, "would you ever date that guy we met from the fair?", and I said yes.

So... later on that night, I phoned him, and we talked about it. He said, 'hey, I was told by your friend, I should ask you out", so... being a girl, I started laughing a blushing. Then he said, 'but I'm worried about the friendship, and the distance." [he's about 45 minutes away].

Now... my question is... how can I get him to stop worrying about the friendship... and actually start getting into a relationship?

I mean... I really like this boy. It's not exactly love... yet. But he's really everything I'm looking for in a boy. He's funny, without being immature. He listens to your problems, he helps out. He compliments me [but I fish for them, lol]

So if any of you have an answer to my question, it'd be greatly appreciated if you shared it!

[strcrft]

OK first off im a guy...so feel free to ridicule my advice but here it goes.

I think this is a very nice story and this dude uve met seems like a genuine person and your lucky this is all working out for you but just some comment on your future prospects with guys.

I think you need to value yourself alot more, I can see from your comments that you put this guys value (albiet slightly) above your own...this is where much relationship insercurity stems from, especially in this case , when u know he likes you and your still nervous.

The main thing u did wrong was that statement that you 'seriously, seriously like him' I suggest to never use with on a guy again...but before u flame me let me explain.

Males enjoy the thrill of the hunt, and genetically we are programmed to find the best mate possible , these two things are sad but true. When a guy is nervous and insecure and desperate...he is not attractive to women and conversely, when a women does not show she is an object of value and desire in the way she acts, flirts and communicates (intially at least) it shows to men that she must be of lower social standing than himself and not worth persuing.

With saying things like you 'seriously seriously' like a guy , it sounds desperate and can make guys question whether you are of adequate social standing to themselves. They can sometimes ask questions like 'why am I chasing a girl who I can JUST HAVE?'.

So if you played just a 'touch' more mysterious and make him feel a little unsure of himself (while still being inviting to his attention)...youll soon find he is just a harmless fly caught in your web.

My 2 cents