Boyfriend and porn issues., Big deal or am I overreacting? Options

[docsgirl]

Probably only mature users should read this, because this topic does deal with sex/porn. Just some forewarning.


Ok, here is a bit of background for you all. I am 20 years old, and my boyfriend is 19, we have been dating for almost a year and a half now. We are sexually active and have been for a while. I feel as if we have a good sex life, and my boyfriend hasn't come to me about any problems.

So my boyfriend has a large sexual appetite, and before we started dating he told me he use to look at porn a lot. I have asked him if he still does, and he said no. I believed him cause I didn't have a reason not to.

But one day while I was on his computer in the drop down URL box there were several porn sites, so I snooped and looked in his history and there were lots of sites and he said it was all old and he doesn't look anymore. So I let it go. He also got rid of the history option on his internet, so the history is cleared daily.

Then a few days ago while he showered I surfed the internet. He had just recently got his computer working after a few weeks of being with out it. And of course in the URL drop down box there were more porn sites. I can't confront him about it really because it wasn't any of my business to really be looking, but I wasn't snooping on purpose- I wasn't looking for porn sites hoping to catch him.

I am completely ok with porn, I know some people love porn (my boyfriend was basically a porn addict), so I wouldn't expect him to not look at it anymore. At first it make me feel bad about myself, but now it doesn't bother me, but it does bother me he lied.

So here is what I am asking, am I overreacting about the whole deal, and I should just forget about it? Or do I need to talk to him about this, because lying isn't something I am ok with, but him looking at porn and being truthful I am. And if I do talk to him about it, how do I make sure it doesn't seem like I was snooping.

Edit- Many people seem to be confused and want to accuse me of hating on porn and being some crazy woman who is jealous of the girls in the movies. Please understand that porn was not the issue in this post. Lying was the issue.

Also this is really ironic. My boyfriend owns several different websites and him and his friend actually thought about managing a porn website that would advertise for large porn websites because they heard it would produce a lot of money, but they decided against it. And i was ok with him doing this, as long as he was just involved with mantaining the website.

[yaamakoh]

He doesn't love porn, he loves you.
When a man gets lonely, and when he desires a sexual appetite, they watch porn and masturbate. It's a given history for all males since the internet became published =].
But yeah, just the fact he lied to you was indeed wrong, but maybe he had a good reason to. Maybe he was scared that you would overreact, or thought that you would assume that porn has more control over him than you do as a girlfriend. But yeah, porn shouldn't interfere with any relationship, plus I know most couples that watch it together.
About the lying issue, confront him about it. A small issue like porn can blow up into bigger issues related to lying... plus a long term relationship creates more trust, and also creates a better way to break trust. Trust issues are found generally in long term relationships than short term ones, so I would urge you to speak to him about it. Just try not to overreact or have a wrong tone of voice.