freshman and senior?! Options

[-sincerely]

i think that's kinda weird/wrongish if a freshman liked a sr/visa versa/they were together.
can i have opinions?
i know there's been posts like this, but this is like.. in particular.. know what i mean?
anyway. opinions?
like, i'm fine with a 3-4 age difference, but i think that fresh-senior is A LOT. like 25-29 is okay, etc. but yeah.. you get the idea.

ps: sorry i have not been posting lately.

[leaveheralone]

Oh, please, half of you in this thread have no idea what you're talking about, so shut your traps and spare me the bullshit.

First of all, I am, in fact, going out with an eighteen year old (18 going on 19 this November) and I am fifteen (turning 16 this December.) I started going out with him when I was a freshman and he was a senior.

Well a (guy) friend once told me...

"When you're a freshman, don't date anybody older than a sophomore because they'll probably expect sex."

I dare you to tell me that that is not also the case with guys the same age as a girl, especially in those immature stages in freshman year. Ask anyone. The rates for sex are getting younger and younger, so don't give me that. In my case, most of the guys I know who are older are more mature about these things and don't ask for sex until their girlfriends (same age, older, OR younger) are ready.

In contrast, the younger boys speak openly about dumping a girl if she doesn't put out.

Excuse me, what's the difference there?

I know there are senior guys who are trying to get with freshmen to get something, but it's equally alarming if the guy actually believes that he and someone who has just entered her teen years are both equal, physically and emotinoally. Do not use that "Oh, she's mature for her age." I've heard this too many times. A truly mature person doesn't try to go out and do things people older than them do. Instead, they will understand their age and realize they should not be entering such a relationship. There's real maturity for you!

What are you talking about? Who are you to make these laws and who should and should not be making these commitments? Are you implying that for one to be mature, one has to be past a certain age? You need to get a serious reality check and take a look at the world around you.

"A truly mature person doesn't try to go out and do things people older than them do."

I assume you are talking about the usual : Sex, alcohol, drugs.
It is all in the choice of the person. A fifteen year old girl could have had sex, done dope, and drink at a weekly rate. Another girl of the same age could be also drinking weekly with her friends, had sex, but hasn't touched drugs in her life.

It is all a matter of CHOICE. The line on who drinks or who fcuks or who does drugs has become thin and stretched out.

I could go on and quote other people but this will take way too long.

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Corey and I have been going on for a long time. One year, and about eight months if you don't count the break we took because of an argument. We've gone way past that stage where it's just you know, a relationship. The reason that I got back together with him is because I know it's something special, not just a stupid high school thing.

I'm in the eleventh grade and he's in college, studying Business Management. He has a car and I see him every day except the weekends. We study together, we eat together, we do everything together.

The relationship is actually GOING somewhere. It's not stuck in that high school stage.


So now, you fools.
Think first before making stupid judgements like that. I totally contradicts your opinions on who is mature and who isn't.

Peace out, bitches.

[sarangxai]

Oh, please, half of you in this thread have no idea what you're talking about, so shut your traps and spare me the bullshit.

First of all, I am, in fact, going out with an eighteen year old (18 going on 19 this November) and I am fifteen (turning 16 this December.) I started going out with him when I was a freshman and he was a senior.
I dare you to tell me that that is not also the case with guys the same age as a girl, especially in those immature stages in freshman year. Ask anyone. The rates for sex are getting younger and younger, so don't give me that. In my case, most of the guys I know who are older are more mature about these things and don't ask for sex until their girlfriends (same age, older, OR younger) are ready.

In contrast, the younger boys speak openly about dumping a girl if she doesn't put out.

Excuse me, what's the difference there?
What are you talking about? Who are you to make these laws and who should and should not be making these commitments? Are you implying that for one to be mature, one has to be past a certain age? You need to get a serious reality check and take a look at the world around you.

"A truly mature person doesn't try to go out and do things people older than them do."

I assume you are talking about the usual : Sex, alcohol, drugs.
It is all in the choice of the person. A fifteen year old girl could have had sex, done dope, and drink at a weekly rate. Another girl of the same age could be also drinking weekly with her friends, had sex, but hasn't touched drugs in her life.

It is all a matter of CHOICE. The line on who drinks or who fcuks or who does drugs has become thin and stretched out.

I could go on and quote other people but this will take way too long.

---

Corey and I have been going on for a long time. One year, and about eight months if you don't count the break we took because of an argument. We've gone way past that stage where it's just you know, a relationship. The reason that I got back together with him is because I know it's something special, not just a stupid high school thing.

I'm in the eleventh grade and he's in college, studying Business Management. He has a car and I see him every day except the weekends. We study together, we eat together, we do everything together.

The relationship is actually GOING somewhere. It's not stuck in that high school stage.
So now, you fools.
Think first before making stupid judgements like that. I totally contradicts your opinions on who is mature and who isn't.

Peace out, bitches.

Um.. no, I'm sorry, but you're assuming things. There are 14 year olds that are like "Oh, I'm mature for my age" therefore I think I should go date an 18 year old guy and be able to understand a relationship. Believe me, you have no idea how much a person's mentality changes from the moment they enter high school to the time they leave.

Maturity isn't all about age, that's true... but age is a part of it. There is no way a 14 year old can have that much life experience.

I wasn't even talking about sex, drugs, etc. That would be like me saying that every person older than 14 or something does that kind of stuff. There are just some things that come with adulthood that are impossible to understand when you're younger.

You're still young and when you're older, you might be able to understand more. I'm not saying that when you're older, you'll think I'm right and you're wrong, but you will be able to understand why people's opinions are they way they are.

Btw, you're not really displaying your "maturity" very well be cursing at people who don't agree with you.