Is it mean of me?, to secretly hate her? Options

[pinacoolada]

So I like this guy.
And since I like him, I started talking to him.
It went pretty well..we talked a lot, flirted a lot, and talked on the phone a lot. It was pretty awesome since we've just known each other for about a month.

But here's the catch.
His ex-gf (now gf again), is his best friend. They both still like each other and she started being mean to me. Then this week, I found out that they are going out again. And just like that, our connection suddenly was handicapped. Now..it's really awkward when we talk..etc. etc.

I hate her...because the fact that she didn't give me a shot at it when she had 2 tries with him before just seems selfish to me, although in reality, she's just following what she feels.
Maybe I'm jealous..I don't know. But now that he stopped initiating conversations, saying hi and all that crap, what do I do? Do I back off? Try to forget him? Or just wait since they've broken up twice before and it can happen again...?

Help?

[alysaphobia]

^ yup, agreed.
sorry, i don't think he took his flirting/talking to be signs of affection towards you. if he is with his ex now, obviously he likes her, so you can't hate her just because he likes her and not you. what you've got to do now is to get over him, really. don't chase him around.

and are you sure she was being mean to you? maybe you took it the wrong way. i wouldn't want another girl flirting with my boyfriend(or really soon-to-be boyfriend) though, so yeah.