Boyfriend and porn issues., Big deal or am I overreacting? Options

[docsgirl]

Probably only mature users should read this, because this topic does deal with sex/porn. Just some forewarning.


Ok, here is a bit of background for you all. I am 20 years old, and my boyfriend is 19, we have been dating for almost a year and a half now. We are sexually active and have been for a while. I feel as if we have a good sex life, and my boyfriend hasn't come to me about any problems.

So my boyfriend has a large sexual appetite, and before we started dating he told me he use to look at porn a lot. I have asked him if he still does, and he said no. I believed him cause I didn't have a reason not to.

But one day while I was on his computer in the drop down URL box there were several porn sites, so I snooped and looked in his history and there were lots of sites and he said it was all old and he doesn't look anymore. So I let it go. He also got rid of the history option on his internet, so the history is cleared daily.

Then a few days ago while he showered I surfed the internet. He had just recently got his computer working after a few weeks of being with out it. And of course in the URL drop down box there were more porn sites. I can't confront him about it really because it wasn't any of my business to really be looking, but I wasn't snooping on purpose- I wasn't looking for porn sites hoping to catch him.

I am completely ok with porn, I know some people love porn (my boyfriend was basically a porn addict), so I wouldn't expect him to not look at it anymore. At first it make me feel bad about myself, but now it doesn't bother me, but it does bother me he lied.

So here is what I am asking, am I overreacting about the whole deal, and I should just forget about it? Or do I need to talk to him about this, because lying isn't something I am ok with, but him looking at porn and being truthful I am. And if I do talk to him about it, how do I make sure it doesn't seem like I was snooping.

Edit- Many people seem to be confused and want to accuse me of hating on porn and being some crazy woman who is jealous of the girls in the movies. Please understand that porn was not the issue in this post. Lying was the issue.

Also this is really ironic. My boyfriend owns several different websites and him and his friend actually thought about managing a porn website that would advertise for large porn websites because they heard it would produce a lot of money, but they decided against it. And i was ok with him doing this, as long as he was just involved with mantaining the website.

[x3hynalocax3]

I think you overreacted. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now, and we both enjoy porn. I mean, are you jealous of those girls on the internet? Why would you really care at what he looks at? Your sex life is fine and has been fine for a long time (you said), and he probably never stopped looking at porn since you guys started dating...

Anyway, my point is why are you getting jealous of someone he can't even touch? Do you have low self esteem? There is no reason to get upset that you're boyfriend looks at porn. Like 98% of men do. I am a girl and I like porn. Tons of people like it. I wouldn't be worried about your man watching porn, I would be more worried about him ordering a prostitute (if he's obsessed with porn... you never know what he might do to get a girl to do something in one of those videos that you probably won't do).

Stop being jealous. I would have been pissed if someone was snooping around my computer. And your boyfriend lies to you because he knew you would be upset if you found out. At least he's thinking about your feelings.

[***Lucy**]

And your boyfriend lies to you because he knew you would be upset if you found out. At least he's thinking about your feelings.

^ Umm no.. that's not true..
I mean if he did care about her feelings then he shouldn't lie to her because she wouldn't be happy afterwards.
When u lie it's 100% sure that u'll make the other person sad (and mad sometimes) cause soon or later they'll find out the truth, and they will hate the fact that u lied to them..

Now about the porn thing.......... I dunno if it's normal, but I hink she's kinda right for being jealous... My brother who is a cassanova, isn't obssesed with pron. Ok he watche sit but when he has agrilfriend(almost always as he hates being single) he does prefer having sex with her than watching porn..
On the other hand, it's true that almost every man loves it so...........