Boyfriend and porn issues., Big deal or am I overreacting? Options

[docsgirl]

Probably only mature users should read this, because this topic does deal with sex/porn. Just some forewarning.


Ok, here is a bit of background for you all. I am 20 years old, and my boyfriend is 19, we have been dating for almost a year and a half now. We are sexually active and have been for a while. I feel as if we have a good sex life, and my boyfriend hasn't come to me about any problems.

So my boyfriend has a large sexual appetite, and before we started dating he told me he use to look at porn a lot. I have asked him if he still does, and he said no. I believed him cause I didn't have a reason not to.

But one day while I was on his computer in the drop down URL box there were several porn sites, so I snooped and looked in his history and there were lots of sites and he said it was all old and he doesn't look anymore. So I let it go. He also got rid of the history option on his internet, so the history is cleared daily.

Then a few days ago while he showered I surfed the internet. He had just recently got his computer working after a few weeks of being with out it. And of course in the URL drop down box there were more porn sites. I can't confront him about it really because it wasn't any of my business to really be looking, but I wasn't snooping on purpose- I wasn't looking for porn sites hoping to catch him.

I am completely ok with porn, I know some people love porn (my boyfriend was basically a porn addict), so I wouldn't expect him to not look at it anymore. At first it make me feel bad about myself, but now it doesn't bother me, but it does bother me he lied.

So here is what I am asking, am I overreacting about the whole deal, and I should just forget about it? Or do I need to talk to him about this, because lying isn't something I am ok with, but him looking at porn and being truthful I am. And if I do talk to him about it, how do I make sure it doesn't seem like I was snooping.

Edit- Many people seem to be confused and want to accuse me of hating on porn and being some crazy woman who is jealous of the girls in the movies. Please understand that porn was not the issue in this post. Lying was the issue.

Also this is really ironic. My boyfriend owns several different websites and him and his friend actually thought about managing a porn website that would advertise for large porn websites because they heard it would produce a lot of money, but they decided against it. And i was ok with him doing this, as long as he was just involved with mantaining the website.

[smileeetina]

I read something about guys & them being addicted to porn. Here`s a peice of it.

Temptation 3: PORNOGRAPHY
Hey fellas. I know most of you think "there's nothin' wrong with a little
Jenna Jameson after a hard days work", but... I disagree.

When you're done watching porn and you've finished
"laying the smackdown" on yourself, you are left with
more than just sticky hands and wadded up kleenex.

You are left with images BURNED into your mind.
You can go to internet explorer and hit "CLEAR HISTORY"...
You can locate your Limewire folders and delete all your videos...
You can even throw out all your Playboy mags and hardcore xxx tapes...
Regardless, the images will still haunt you.

When you're having a simple conversation with a close female friend,


It becomes harder to stay faithful to your girlfriend/wife.

It becomes harder to concentrate when you're around women.
You begin to think you're "in love" when you're actually just horny.

This MIGHT seem like a joke for you, but if you're seriously struggling
with porn, and find yourself watching it everyday, check out this website:



This site is not only helpful, but really funny!
You see... Whether you admit it or NOT. the more porn you watch,
the CRAZIER your addiction becomes. It starts off with regular porn,
but then you get tired of it. Suddenly, you find yourself watching
bestiality, lolitas, hentai, and shemales! Before you know it, you
get to the point where you're watching girls peeing and crapping
all over each other! SO PLEASE...


FIGHT IT. THIS KIND OF STUFF
CAN REALLY MESS YOU UP.
IT DESTROYS MARRIAGES
ALL THE TIME.