Stop. Using. Me., ... Options

[orgasm]

X = guy
G = girl, one of my friends.

So, there's this guy, X,... I think most people might know who I'm talking about.

Basically, we liked each other a while back but did nothing about it. During that time, we were really, really close... he was probably something like a best friend. I was able to talk to him about anything, everything, whatever.

So over the past year we've drifted a little bit and I've pretty much stopped liking X altogether. Then, X decided that getting together with one of my friends, G, would be a cool thing and whatever. It wasn't really a big deal.. I was kind of surprised because the friend he got together with was the one that told me "I'd NEVER try to take him from you" when I still had a thing for him. I didn't really care at this point because he was never really mine. The thing was that seeing them together kind of ignited the part of me that still wanted him. I think it was more of a lust factor than a I-want-a-relationship-with-you factor.

But it recently died down because we've started hanging out more as friends and whatnot. I was happy for the two of them because they were cute together. They keep denying that they're together, but I see the sparks between them and the way they interact.

So everything should have been fine and dandy, right? We were all friends, I was interested in nobody, they were interested in each other, everything's la la wonderland.

THEN, X decides to pull this crap while the three of us were hanging out. He started walking really closely to me - you know, bumping sides, shoulders, whatever - and looking at me more. Then he asked me to go on a walk with him and I kind of stared at G but was like "okay.."

So we're alone now and he starts saying things like "Remember when we were really close? I miss that. Let's hang out more. I really miss you." And I was like "Okay..." It was kind of sweet, but really awkward to me. I thought it meant that he wanted us to be close like we used to.. friendwise.

Then when the three of us were together again, he kept flirting with me and sitting close to me.. he even said straight out that we should get married and it made me really uncomfortable since G was sitting right there.

I thought something was odd, so I pulled G aside later and asked what was going on.

She told me that he was trying to get her jealous and the fact that he would do something like that really pissed me off.

I don't like being used. I don't like people manipulating my friendship so they can make someone else jealous. I mean, wtf is that?

So basically, I'm pissed off now.

I want to confront him about it, but I think he needs to work out his problems with G before I tell him to stop freaking using me. I'm not a toy that he can just move around to his benefit. I just really, really hate confrontation..

[thanhmai]

Honestly, the best thing (I think) would be confrontation. That's the best way to get things straight in situations.
And the more you practice confronting people, the better you get at it too

[HakunaMatata]

And the more you practice confronting people, the better you get at it too

Exactly. I know that you've already said that you hate confronting people, but you've got to do it. I know that there are other ways, but you already know that you find difficult to cut him off even though you should. Confronting him is the best way, it could feel awkward, but just do it.