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[misfit]

Ok I just found out my boyfriends friend,who is a girl,has been saying shit behind my ack,not to him though.She said(not to me, i was told this and i have proof that she actually did say it)..anyway she said that my bf's mum doesn't like me,that he's mum wishes he wasnt with someone who has a million problems & that she was dissapointed when she met me & wishes that my bf and the other girl were together instead. She also said that I have anxiety attacks for attention and all this other shit. I havent been in a good way lately, so naturally, I didnt take it all to well. I rang my boyfriend crying. He says he doesn't know what she is on about but none of what she said is true. And I said so you're going to keep been friends with someone who upset your girlfriend and betrayed her?And he goes im not going to lose a good friend over it. I wasn't expecting him to, but I thought he'd atleast stand up for me and tell her off? But instead it's like he defended her and got mad at me and told me to ignore it and that the other girl was just being ridiculous. Then he text messages me saying "I have spoken 2 her before and she said sorry and that she didnt mean to course shit she was just talking to that girl about her problems and over exagerated things and she said about she didnt mean it and shes sorry now,im not going to lose a friend over it good night"


Sorry but I dont get it. He's other friend said im shit once,he then yelled at his friend and didnt talk to him for two weeks. Yet it's like what his so called friend has said,is nothing?Fair enough eh doesnt wanna lose a friend but what he's gonna let her get away with it?People have said she must just be jelous,but I dont see how, she's in love with this other guy,she's obsessed with him. And my boyfriend wouldn't touch her with a 10 foot pole. She's very unattractive btw. And she also sent me a message saying half of what I said to you isn't true just so you know...

I mean wtf did I do to her?And I had spoken to my bfs mum about it and she said,i've never said that and i dont know where she has pulled that from. I thought he's mum would be like WHAT?? I dunno maybe I just see things different,maybe my boyfriend doesnt want to put up with this shit, but im upset and she doesn't deserve to get away with it, coz sorry doesn't cut it after what she's made up. Next time she could just do it all again and she would be the reason my boyfriend and I are fighting, again.

His sister said that he likes to avoid conflict but I dunno, I know he's really tired lately,but it's like he defended her and said she's always there for him and shit and got mad at me...

I can't win.Opinions?

[misfit]

Uronacid

Don't judge me.

You don't know the whole story, you don't know me, don't say shit when you don't know it.

Did I say I expect people to do this and that.NO.

I was upset and I was looking at all the negative. Analyzing every single thing. Thinking to myself, if he's mum just didn't really react does it mean that some of it is true?

What you say is wrong. Lol deal with conflict, I know how to. When i'm upset, i'm not going to ignore something, sorry, you must be a person who keeps your feelings in. Oh wait, no you're probably not, because I don't know you. And I shouldn't judge you.

I come here for advice, not to be criticized and talked to like i'm a peice of shit.

I was not wanting him to not be friends with her. But after he yelled at his friend for saying im shit and didnt talk to him for 2 weeks, it obvioously makes me think, well hey, what's the difference with her.
He does know what i'm thinking. I told him.
If one of my friends said shit about him, i'd stand up and say something.
But it was like she can just get away with it and upset me again.
I wasn't expecting him to do anything, but the fact that he wasn't doing anything, upset me and made me think he didn't care.