Help Me, I'm at my wits end Options

[starlette]

Okay so heres the thing.

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years now and I love him to death. No problem yet right?

Okay well a lot of you know I'm a singer, and I work really really hard to make my dream a reality. Like I bust my ass. And I also have apart time job right now because my mom left me with 1700 dollars worth of bills so yeah I'm busting butt right now, I mean I havevery little free time.

Then theres my boyfriend. His family is really wealthy (his lawyer father just retired and bought a 1.2 million dollar house in austin) and his dad is putting him thru college. Now at first its like, oh hes in college that great right? No its not. Hes only in college because his dad is paying for him to live and eat and all that crap. His major is a general studies. Now I don't knwo if y'all know but the general studies degree is somethign you can get at pretty much any community college...my boyfriend is going to a 10,000 dollar a year university. And all he can muster up after 5 years in college is a general studies degree. That doesnt even mean anything. All it does is give him placement over a guy with a high school diploma at jack in the box. Its pretty much worthless. and on top of that hes working a job at the university for 5.50 an hour. Washing dishes. And hes going to be out on his own after this semester and he thinks he going to be able to survive on a job he works 15 hours a week for 5.50 an hour. I work 30-35 hours a week for 8.00. And i keep trying to tell him to go get a better job and he won't even try. And its driving me crazy because its like here I am with dreams a goals and I'm with this complete lazy ass push over who doesnt know how to put forth any effort. And I feel like we shouldnt be together. I want someone with GOALS. God at least a goal like, get out of college and out of my moms house before I'm 35. And hes a sweet person and I love him but I feel like we can't be together because I'm moving forward and hes standing still. I mean he doesnt even know what hes going to do when he graduates. 5 years in college and hes going to just move in with his mother...or me probably. And I mean, I don't want to be supporting someone all my life...I want him to have his own goals and ambitions and not just sit around playing playstation al day getting fat off the food I bought. SO someone tell me what you think cuz this has been bothering me for a long time and I know its not ever going to change. And I still love him but I don't know if I can be with him in the long run.

[xlitoxb]

I say try going to the extreme and give him an ultimatum. It seems like he doesn't have much longer before his dad pulls the plug, so you say. Tell him that you're sick of him just lounging around and make him find a better job or figure out what he's gonna do with his life. If not, then he won't be in your future or you won't be in his. Maybe that'll finally give him a jolt. Hope it works out for you! =]