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He asked me not to come to the party.
misfit
post Sep 14 2006, 09:37 PM
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My boyfriend and I are invited to his friends party, but my boyfriend basicly uninvited me. He basicly doesn't want me to wreck my night. Ok I have bad anxiety and might end up needing to go home early. A while back at his friends parties, I was like a hermit crab, alway in my shell coz i was so self concious and he wanted me to come so i'd open up more and make the effort and I did.Now he's basicly asking me to go back into my shell just to make him happy.
I am so upset,he's such an a-hole. It's not as if I was going to leave at 10pm at night. I said we can leave at like 3am or whatever, I just didn't really wanna stay the night and if he was me, I wouldn't ask him not to come, i'd try make him feel more comfortable so he didn't want to leave. I can't win. What do you think?
 
 
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post Sep 18 2006, 10:48 AM
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Well for starters, I got it wrong. He didn't ask me not to come.
He just used different words, because I said I don't know if I will come. And then he said, is it alright that you don't come?As in, are you sure you don't want to come. He knows what it's like for me because he understands. I can be shy around new people yes, but I start to get anxious, sometimes even over nothing, but mainly it will come on if i'm far away from home or something,it'll sometimes just come on suddenly & then I will start to panic. He just didn't want me to be in that situation, because if I got really anxious, i'd want to go home and it'd still take a fair bit of time to get home on the night bus.And plus if I wanted to go home early, then it'd suck coz we'd come all that way and not have been there for that long.

I spose if I had lasted for a fair amount of time, without getting anxious, then he'd be alright to leave with me, I know I could of just stayed the night but I have trouble getting to sleep at other peoples houses,its so shit. and doesn't help if I have anxiety at the time..

He wanted me to come he just didn't want to have to leave early because it's like 2 hours away.
 

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misfit   He asked me not to come to the party.   Sep 14 2006, 09:37 PM
yrrnotelekktric   Your boyfriend doesn`t want you to go a party ...   Sep 14 2006, 09:40 PM
Listelle   Wow, I don't want to judge your bf so quickly....   Sep 14 2006, 09:45 PM
Hiphop d[-_-]b   f**k that. Go if you want and leave when you want,...   Sep 14 2006, 09:54 PM
iROCKYOURSOCKS   QUOTEb\' date=\'Sep 14 2006, 9:5...   Sep 14 2006, 10:49 PM
x1227x   ^ agree. dont listen to what he says. you do whate...   Sep 14 2006, 09:56 PM
Venomous Lust   ok well um just chill out go to the partyand tuffe...   Sep 14 2006, 10:44 PM
misfit   I see where you are coming from, but he doesn...   Sep 14 2006, 11:20 PM
Venomous Lust   Yeah ok that is kinda f**ked up but its your fault...   Sep 15 2006, 01:55 PM
misfit   Turns out I took it all the wrong way. When he sai...   Sep 17 2006, 10:00 AM
Angelina Taylor   ^ Don't try to justify his actions. Your boyfr...   Sep 17 2006, 10:31 AM
_sarcastic_   it doesn't matter if he's worried about yo...   Sep 17 2006, 12:44 PM
candy_coated_kisses   QUOTEDon't try to justify his actions. Your bo...   Sep 17 2006, 02:50 PM
Venomous Lust   Oh you people are stubborn you refuse to look at i...   Sep 17 2006, 03:26 PM
misfit   Well for starters, I got it wrong. He didn't a...   Sep 18 2006, 10:48 AM
princess*missy   mine's going good fer now. We just celebrated ...   Sep 18 2006, 11:08 AM
sillakilla220   y'kno this kind of situation is always tricky....   Sep 18 2006, 11:32 AM
misfit   QUOTE(sillakilla220 @ Sep 19 2006, 2:32 A...   Sep 18 2006, 08:14 PM
KissMe2408   QUOTE(sillakilla220 @ Sep 18 2006, 12:32 ...   Sep 18 2006, 08:30 PM
misfit   =/ what a weirdo. Well i've been thinking and ...   Sep 20 2006, 06:39 AM


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