Christianity and Sex, ... I just want to know how other Christians interpret this Options

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It'd be really great if the Christians would reply to this topic, because I'm relating sex to Christianity... not to "OMG, Christianity is stupid and blah blah blah don't listen to the Bible, blah blah blah". But do what you will, it doesn't really matter.

I'm non-denominational, but I'm going to a Methodist church (Just clearing that up, because I'm pretty sure different sects see this differently). We just had a series of sermons about marriage, and as part of this series, the pastor talked about sex.

Basically, what he said is that sex is not a bad thing. It's a pleasure that God created for us and something meant for us to actually enjoy. It's like a gift. The thing about sex is that when done properly (properly as in with your spouse, or someone you love) it's a beautiful thing, but when people take the "gift" of sex and turn it into trash, then it can become destructive.

So many people view Christianity as "be abstinate because if you're not, that's a sin, etc etc etc." But, if you really think about it...

Sex CAN be destructive when abused. I'm sure there are tons of people here who have regretted having sex with a certain person from time to time.

And at the same time, with the right person and at the right time, sex is beautiful.



How do you interpret Christianity and it's view on sex?

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Sex before marriage (during engagement, with a partner, with a lover) is wrong. So basically, have sex with you spouse and thats it. Sure sex is a wonderful thing, and it's even more wonderful with one person only...

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Sex before marriage (during engagement, with a partner, with a lover) is wrong. So basically, have sex with you spouse and thats it. Sure sex is a wonderful thing, and it's even more wonderful with one person only...

I would have to respectfully disagree.

Many experts say a huge percent ofpeople who save themseves for marriage wind up unhappy with their love lives because...well theyre awful. And a lot find themselves wanting to experiment outside of the relationship or just not make love at all because they are unfufilled. And when it comes down to it, other than in catholicism, where they write their own rules, where is your point based from?

Besides, I'm glad I had sex before I got in my long term, might-as-well be married relationship, because I was learning with the other people, and they never got my best, and now that I'm happy and comfortable, I'm also confident and our experience is very enjoyable. I mean yes, there were some I regret, but a lot of us regret meeting people, so its no different in my eyes, except that it was wasted time and basicaly I didnt appreciate myself enough with those people.

And I'm not angry or defensive (everyone thinks I'm defensive when I post, I dont get it lol) but I wonder where you get your basis for "sex before marriage is wrong." I mean it would be one thing if you could say, here in this book this person says "and God adds the eleventh commandment, sex before marriage is wrong" but thats not there. Also, since the constitution of marriage that we know today is different than what marriage was when the bible was written, technically no one today would be allowed to have sex because theyre version of marriage isnt the same version referred to in the bible.

Also, think of the people who get married only for someones money. They enter the marriage dishonestly, pretending to want to be faithful. One of the people doesnt even love the other. They would be allowed to have sex over say, someone like me who is madly in love with my partner and has been with him for four years, and our relationship is honest and pure? Pain will come from the marriage based on lies, whereas we both are happy and not in pain, and are not married.

what about people who still believe in arranged marriages? A young woman is forced to marry a man she doesnt love, and have sex with him to bring his and her family a legacy. Isnt that wrong? Wouldnt she live her life with emotional pain? Versus two consenting adults who love eachother and want to marry in the future?

What if the one you think is the love of your life runs off to the military, and you fear you will lose them so you get married and have sex and all that. Then he comes home and leaves you because hes alive. Think of the pain that would cause. Waiting for 4 years, giving yourself to ghet one you love and being betrayed.

The reason I bring up all these points is because the church has manipulated sex into something that is only safe when you are married. But it can be just as dangerous and hurtful inside of marriage as well, and then techinically the bible would be supporting that. so many young people are, in my opinion, brainwashed to beleive that their sexuality is wrong, and they grow up, get married, and still never experence the amazing and powerful gift sex is. Many kids hurry up and get married just so they can have sex, and wind up hurt and alone, a lot of them with children they have to raise on their own. The whole "no sex before marriage" is almost as dangerous as unwanted sex. Because it creates desire. many peopel ban things they feel are wrong, and by banning them find they grow in popularity. Think marajuana. Most people know if marajuana was legal, half the kids who smoke it regularly now wouldnt have touched the stuff. I find that is it destructive to our youth to promote no sex before marriage. Many people lose the one they truly love before they get married, and never love again. Are they lost to the gift of sex? And what about people who have multiple marriages, they technically are then entitled to sleep around because theyve married 6 people, so they could, in the eyes of God, have 6 sexual partners.

As a Christian, God makes things very simple. Don't let something take his place. And if you are running around have sex with everyone you meet, God is not on your mind. Unless you are sick. And there are many who, whithin the confines of marriage, let sex take God place as well. It just as addictive between two married people as it is between two people dating, or two people who just met. Like I said with alcohol, it is not ungodly to drink, but it is wrong to drink so much that you're life focuses on alcohol, and not God. and I know from personal experience that I don't let sex interfere with my relationship with God, and I'm going it with person I beleive he destined for me, and thats wrong?