I hate pretending, I know I'm just using her. i need advice. Options

[elaboratedream]

My relationship status right now is sorta weird.
I'm in the middle of this insane love triangle/threesome relationship.

It started off with me and my bf. We were, overall, doing well together. a few times I was pretty sure he was cheating on me, but i cheated on him a few times too (no more than kissing though) but after one of the times i was pretty sure he cheated on me, he asked me for an open relationship. of course I refused. he continued pushing the subject, and two days later i hung out with him, my ex gf, and two bisexual girls I barely knew. to make a long story short, we ended up having a wild orgy. then four days later, one of the girls invited my bf and me over to her house.

things happened, and we decided we should all three go out.
or more, my bf and now gf decided that. i sorta went along with it because i saw a potential gain for me. I knew from the start I didn't care about her.
I knew from the start I was just using her.

because she has a car and a license. Neither I nor my bf have that.

so this way, I can actually hang out with my bf at his house.... I couldnt do that before. because I would always have to have my parents drop me off.

but anyways....

now I'm questioning this whole relationship. I know its not fair to pretend like I love her when I really couldn't care less about her. but more than that, I want her out of the way. I want it to just be me and my bf. I know if I do dump her, it's gonna hurt her, and I might even end up losing my bf. and more than that, I'll lose my form of transportation and entertainment.

I know it sounds aweful.

and I know most of you are going to just say "dump her. its not fair to her."
but you also have to consider how she's going to react to that. this isn't going to work out well either way, but at least like this, she's happy in her ignorance.

what should I do?

[*Uronacid*]

wow, I have never heard of something like this... all I can say is that...

YOU ARE F U C K E D

Do what's right and learn from this.


Just a few things I see that you could learn:

- You cannot use people.
- You cannot have a healthy three-some relationship.
- You have to be more honest with people.
- You cannot throw love around unless you know what it means.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

wow, I have never heard of something like this... all I can say is that...

YOU ARE F U C K E D

Do what\'s right and learn from this.
Just a few things I see that you could learn:

- You cannot use people.
- You cannot have a healthy three-some relationship.
- You have to be more honest with people.
- You cannot throw love around unless you know what it means.

i agree. i mean COULD YOU GO ANY LOWER?!! i cant believe you would use someone jus for your advantage and could possibly even think that a THREESOME realtionship was okay? do you, your boyfriend and your girlfriend have any SELF RESPECT? obviously you guys have a \"disturbing\" way of showing that you love each other and i suggest you and your \"lovers\" go to a sex education class and go deeply into the subject about aids, stds, and other realted sexual diseases because if you cant tell if your girlfriend and boyfriend are so comfortable be intimate with you and each other wat makes you so sure they arent having sex with other people who might even have aids? obviously none of you guys know the meaning of love or respect.

p.s sorry, but i just want to be honest and not lie to you and try to comfort you and say its okay what you did because NO ITS REALLY NOT OKAY.

[elaboratedream]

i agree. i mean COULD YOU GO ANY LOWER?!! i cant believe you would use someone jus for your advantage and could possibly even think that a THREESOME realtionship was okay? do you, your boyfriend and your girlfriend have any SELF RESPECT? obviously you guys have a \"disturbing\" way of showing that you love each other and i suggest you and your \"lovers\" go to a sex education class and go deeply into the subject about aids, stds, and other realted sexual diseases because if you cant tell if your girlfriend and boyfriend are so comfortable be intimate with you and each other wat makes you so sure they arent having sex with other people who might even have aids? obviously none of you guys know the meaning of love or respect.

p.s sorry, but i just want to be honest and not lie to you and try to comfort you and say its okay what you did because NO ITS REALLY NOT OKAY.

yes, we all have self respect.

and I know they're faithful. and besides, we've all been tested multiple times.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

yes, we all have self respect.

and I know they\'re faithful. and besides, we\'ve all been tested multiple times.

im curious...what do you define as being faithful and having self respect? i kno that you think they are faithful because in your own mind you know that you wont be unfaithful to your boyfriend or girlfriend but your not in thier minds all day..and not all people are going to think like you how do you know if they meet someone else outside of your guys \"realtionship\" hey if they can sleep with more than one person wat stops them from sleeping with other people and not tell you? your not them and no matter how faithful you think they are you dont watch them 24/7 and they wont tell you the truth either.

when your boyfriend comes from having sex with your girlfriend and comes and haves sex with you do you think that is respectful to you? are you happy if your boyfriend kisses you and accidentally maybe he says another girls name besides you? you deserve to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who has time for you and only you. i mean its not right in my opnion that you 3 think its healthy to be in this kind of realtionship.

GOOD LUCK.

p.s dont use people, because karma is oh so real.