He asked me not to come to the party. Options

[misfit]

My boyfriend and I are invited to his friends party, but my boyfriend basicly uninvited me. He basicly doesn't want me to wreck my night. Ok I have bad anxiety and might end up needing to go home early. A while back at his friends parties, I was like a hermit crab, alway in my shell coz i was so self concious and he wanted me to come so i'd open up more and make the effort and I did.Now he's basicly asking me to go back into my shell just to make him happy.
I am so upset,he's such an a-hole. It's not as if I was going to leave at 10pm at night. I said we can leave at like 3am or whatever, I just didn't really wanna stay the night and if he was me, I wouldn't ask him not to come, i'd try make him feel more comfortable so he didn't want to leave. I can't win. What do you think?

[Listelle]

Wow, I don't want to judge your bf so quickly.. but that's kinda wrong. Maybe he's worried you're going to be clingly all night and he's really looking forward to having some fun, but he should consider your feelings a little more. You said you were going to make an effort to come out of your shell more, so he should be encouraging you, not telling you to stay home. Have you tried talking to him about it? I know everyone is going to tell you to do that, but that's just because it actually does work.

And the following is bad advice, so don't listen to me, but if I was you, I'd go to that party looking as good as anything, have a ton of fun, be incredibly social, and dis the bf all night just to teach him a lesson. It'll be great to see him brooding in a corner while you're laughing about something with a bunch of cool people. But yeah. Don't do that.