parents fighting. Options

[alysaphobia]

my parents screamed at each other today.
at like, 11PM. my dad came back late from drinking some (not drunk... but yeah, drinking a little anyways) and they had an argument which ended up as a screaming fest which i could hear all the way downstairs in my room, door shut. it ended up with my dad storming out the house, slamming the door and driving off to god knows where.

not only does them screaming at each other scare me, especially when i hear things being thrown around, presumably at each other, but it completely stresses me out. i hate it. this has happened a few times before.


i know everybody's parents fight, but how do you deal? this is too loud.

[blacknailpolish]

^...not if they're anything like my parents...


I'll stop complaining now, this isnt even my topic.

[*Zatanna*]

I'll stop complaining now, this isnt even my topic.

No worries. The topic starter asked how everyone deals. :)

I never met my father so I don't have experience with being the one listening to the screaming.

I do have some experience being someone involved or taking part in the screaming.

My mom is a screamer. It doesn't matter what time of day it is, she screams. I don't think she's capable of talking at a relatively normal volume. I hated it growing up. I actually had a friend come out and sound proof my room when I was 16 because it drove me so crazy. That didn't work because she would just open the door and scream, almost as if she wanted me to hear it. It came to a point where we actually became physical with one another because I was so angry.

To this day, when someone raises their voice, it makes my blood boil.

So you'd think I would never scream because I hate it so much, right? Well, unfortunately that hasn't happened. Fast forward to the present: Due to circumstances that are just out of my control, I'm leaving with my mother again. I could list out the reasons but I do not wish to bore anyone more than I have to and some of it is just too personal.

Well, I'm here now, with my mom and my little boy. My mom and I have an emotionally violent relationship and when she gets going, I swear I can't help myself. I'll let her go off for a few minutes (I swear she doesn't even stop to breathe) then I explode. I promised myself I would never raise my voice in front of my little boy. Ever. I just don't want him to be like me and part of the reason I am how I am (certain negative aspects) is because I was screamed at or had to hear screaming so often when I was young. It really does become a vicious cycle.

My point is, nip this in the bud. Of course, you have to consider whether or not this is a regular or seldom occurence. People argue and sometimes they raise their voices at each other. If this is something happening a lot and is continually upsetting you, then say something. Say it sooner than later.