its all downhill, 5 year relationship Options

[II_noFOREVER]

ive been with chris since the 8th grade and we`ve been together for almost 5 years now. when it`s good, it`s oh so good but when it`s bad, hell breaks open.

it`s weird with us because one day, he`s so committed to us. all he tells me is, "i want to be with you forever. i love you with all my heart. i want to marry you." and the next day, he tells me, "i don`t want to be committed. i don`t want to talk about the future." it hurts me because i love him that much and we`ve been together for 5 years. does he not want to be with me anymore? i don`t understand --- why does he always change his mind? is it something i`m doing? what could i do?

our relationship hasn`t always been the best because we`ve gotten into countless arguments over petty things. now i`m going to go to college in san diego and he`s going to be here in los angeles. i`m planning on coming back every 2 weeks, but i don`t know if it`ll be enough.

i don`t want him to get tired of this "long distance thing" and i don`t want his eyes to wander while i`m away. chris has always been a faithful person and i know he`d never cheat on me. is it wise to keep going with this relationship even though i`ll be a 100 miles away? i feel like i can`t live without him because we`ve been through everything together. what do i do?

help! thanks


EDIT ----
i know that 2 hours isnt as extreme as other long distance relationships :p

but remember that we have been practically neighbors for the past 5 years & its hard to go from that to being in different cities :(

THANKS for all of your advice.

[II_noFOREVER]

thanks to everybody for your advice :)

and as for the whole break / no break type of thing .... we want to be together. he's willing to drive to san diego to see me & im doing the same to see him in LA.

yeah, its not so much "long distance". its just a LONGER distance then we have been for the past 5 years. i mean we lived 15 minutes away from each other to now 2 hours!

thank everybody for the reassurance also. if it's meant to be, everything will fall into place.

I'm sorry to hear that ur going through this. The best thing to do as of right now is to have a long sit down talk with him to see where the both of you stand in this relationship. I've been through a very similar situation where I had to leave my bf behind while I attended college miles away and trust me it was hard, VERY HARD. So if ur relationship was meant to survive through this whole ordeal then everything will fall into place. It's a matter of having faith in ur relationship and being patient. And if things fall apart then you'll know that it wasn't meant to be.

if you dont mind me asking, what was the turn out?