its all downhill, 5 year relationship |
its all downhill, 5 year relationship |
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ive been with chris since the 8th grade and we`ve been together for almost 5 years now. when it`s good, it`s oh so good but when it`s bad, hell breaks open.
it`s weird with us because one day, he`s so committed to us. all he tells me is, "i want to be with you forever. i love you with all my heart. i want to marry you." and the next day, he tells me, "i don`t want to be committed. i don`t want to talk about the future." it hurts me because i love him that much and we`ve been together for 5 years. does he not want to be with me anymore? i don`t understand --- why does he always change his mind? is it something i`m doing? what could i do? our relationship hasn`t always been the best because we`ve gotten into countless arguments over petty things. now i`m going to go to college in san diego and he`s going to be here in los angeles. i`m planning on coming back every 2 weeks, but i don`t know if it`ll be enough. i don`t want him to get tired of this "long distance thing" and i don`t want his eyes to wander while i`m away. chris has always been a faithful person and i know he`d never cheat on me. is it wise to keep going with this relationship even though i`ll be a 100 miles away? i feel like i can`t live without him because we`ve been through everything together. what do i do? help! thanks ![]() EDIT ---- i know that 2 hours isnt as extreme as other long distance relationships :p but remember that we have been practically neighbors for the past 5 years & its hard to go from that to being in different cities :( THANKS for all of your advice. |
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You know the best thing to do at the moment is talk to him ask him how he feels just show that you really care. I mean your away now and you both have to step into this long distance relationship and after being together and seeing each other for 5 years its got to be a little set back.
The only thing you really have in a long distance relationship is the emotional side, so communication is the biggest thing. Ask him what he thinks about the relationship and how it is at the moment, if he wants to take a break. I don't really know if you could stop him. As sad as that may sound. I don't think he'll really want to, but he may not know what to really expect since your away. It takes a lot of trust and maybe the trust between both of you isn't as strong as you may think it is. |
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