this friend i have, i told her to do something Options

[AimeeLynn]

ok,i have this so called "friend". i trusted her to go to my myspace to give this message to someone since i couldn't go to my myspace mail at that time. Stupid me trusting her, i gave her my password and my email to do it not thinking she would look through ALL my other messages i gave to ppl. She is madd at me cuz b4 she was mad at me and wrote this HUGE 2 page letter on how i was a bad friend and how i use Big words. I was madd too so to get all that anger i sent to this other friend of mine online. She read it and it was dated july 4,2006 [dont worrry i said sorry on that message] & now she is making a hissy fit. i know she talks crap about me w/ her outside friends. i have other message i sent to ppl and i feel like its was wrong for her to go through my mail. i never had done that to anyone who had gave me their email and password to me to do something. i feel stupid around her because she tells me off on how to look, how to talk, and basically i have to act like a lacky.

So do think im wrong? should i say sorry again?
or should i not talk to her?

she always fights w/ me and im tried of it, most of the time its because of somthing stupid. i think i twas wrong she looked though my mail. its a ferderal offence to do that.

[*Uronacid*]

Wow, look, everyone needs an outlet. I talk about how I feel about my friends behind their backs all the time. Most of the time it's because I have to vent about it. Either that or I have to talk about them to under stand how I truley feel about them.

I talk abotu Holly behind her back all the time (sorry, but it's the truth). I only expect her to do the same. I encourage her to talk about he problems and issues with other people becuase I know that it will only help her to better understand herself and what she needs as an individual. I don't care if she talks about me behind my back. I want her to vent if she has something on her heart.

Now, at the same time, you can't just vent, vent, vent, and never say anything to the person that (you are have your conflict with/will be effected by that conflict). If you didn't say anything to her about the way that you felt about her, then you do owe her an appolgy. You owe her an appology because you are not allowing her to become the best person that she can be. If you have figured out how you feel about a person, and you do care about that person. You need to do your best to tell that person how they effected you, what they did to effect you that way, and why it effected you that way. If what they did was wrong they will be able to see that and possibly make an attempt to change their behavior for the better. If they didn't do anything wrong, perhapse you misunderstood what they were doing, they will be able to help you understand why they had done what they did or what had meant to do.

Yes, she didn't have the right to read all that stuff and is in the wrong for invading your privacy, but at the same time you did allow her to do that. It's your fualt. She should appologize for going through your profile, but if you never told her how you felt about her when you were angery. You may owe her an apology for that.

When if comes right down to it... You really need to talk to her. She shouldn't get mad when she is reading stuff that she isn't supposed to read, and from now on maybe you should just work things out with her and talk it over when you're angery with her. If she can't handle working things out then maybe you need to find a new friend.