i have this friend, and she is making me and my bff mad... Options

[shinysparkle3]

okay, so, me and ashley have this freind and she has a REALLY low self esteem and she always has. she is always talking bad about herself and its really annoying. she always talks bad about guys that me and ashley talk to saying "oh hes a football player dont hang out with him" or "oh yeah, thaaaat guy, there is something about him i dont like" or "eww dont talk to him he skateboards" or "oh yeah i bet he doesnt even remember me." and she thinks that EVERY GIRL in the WHOLE school give her the evil eye and that they hate her. its REALLY annoying. she always says how ungly and fat she is. yeah, i mean, she isnt that skinny and she isnt that pretty but like its annoying.
she is really sensitive..

how should we tell her that its getting old?

[loveneko]

Do what I would do in this situation, wait till she says it to you on a pissy day. Where you could care less, then tell it to her exactly like this.
Shut up. Stop bicthing about it, do you seriously think that youre sooo important that everyone has you on the mind all the time? I love you, youre my friend and all. But it has got to stop. Next time I hear you say the same old tired stuff. I'm just gonna walk away.

Cuz the same thing happened to me, and thats exactly what I told her, but I cursed alot more. The next day she came back with that same sob sh*t, and I walked away from her no questions asked. I saw her at the end of day and i told her, if you don't have somethin' productive to say then keep that sh*t to yourself. And we've been friends ever since. No problems.

Oh and for the fat thing, tell her if she wants to lose weight you'll help her cuz youre a good friend, and she should take the stairs instead of the elevator. MATTER OF FACT. Allow her to make fun of you, and you make fun of her. You might not think that it'll help, but it'll raise her self confidence. That's how I did it, me and my friends make fun of each other all the time. We know what subjects not to touch, and if they are touched then it's got to be a really good joke, and it always is. we make fun of weight, height, skin colour, smartness, the amount of boys we attract, hair, nails, feet, nationality. Everything. It'll help. Tell her to keep an open mind. If she uses that old, if you were my friend you wouldn't say that line just tell her I am your friend, thats why im taking out all your faults and putting them out there. The sooner you begin to love your faults, the sooner you stop whining and complaining.

I hope this helps, it helped with me.