Big problem.. so confused.. please help.... Options

[sheilac0825]

Sorry that it's a long story.

Well I met a guy in the club in H.K. at 24/8 night. I'm 17 n he's 18. He studied in UK Bristol, n now he's staying here for summer holiday. We fancied each other, I think it's like love at first sight or what. cuz he's really hot. he's been so sweet to me all the night. yes we did kiss each other n sth like that. n then when i left he asked me to give him my phone no.. well i just cant stop thinking abt him all the night.

then 25/8 was my bday (he knew that), he dated me out for dinner with his frens, he was really sweet that he wrote me a birthday card! We just liked the little couple.I like him lot.
after dinner we went to the bar, but unfortunately, we drunk n we had sex... though I didn't reject him at that time.but now when i think abt this, i felt i was so stupid n cheap..

then my bad dream came, at first i thought we'll be together n became couple. I phoned him the other morning, but then, he didnt answer my call. Even i text him, he never replies.
He called me back at night n gave so many excuses to explain y he didnt answer my call.

26/8 was like that
27/8 he kept ignoring me
28/8 also

he hurted me so bad, I cried. it's just because this is my first time n I'm still a virgin. I was just like a stupid girl.calling him everyday n he never answers..
I feel he dumped me and I was really hurt... I just want to see him again..

n today, 29/8
Finally we came out for dinner again, this time he changed a lot. he didnt held my hands when he saw me. he's so cool n we got nth to say, which is really embarrassing.

we went to the park.n i wanted him to tell me WHAT'S GOING ON these few days.
i had argued with him for a long time. i said i'll wait him. becuz i really like him..

then he told me that it's all becuz he had to go back to Bristol at 5, Sept.
and next time when he comes back it is X'mas holiday.
he don't think our love will last.. so he chose not to answer my call.
he wants us to stay friends.
he said it's better for us to be friends. it'll be more comfortable.
he said: " Look at urself, I didnt care u for a few days in HK, then u was like this,
how abt when i go back to UK? i wont have much time to call u everyday.
it's better if we stay friends now. If we still like each other when i come back at X'mas, we'll be together, OK? "


Sigh, at last i agreed with him..n he seemed relief
he promised me that he wont ignore my call anymore.
actually i thought he's irresponsible.. but what can i do?
I dont want to give up our relationship..
but i dont want myself being so annoying...
i just don't know what to do.......
can u guys help...

[*This Confession*]

Just remain friends with him, if you really want something from him. He sounds a little like those typical guys that people stick on guys the ones that just sleep with you and thats it. Your done.

Just keep talking to him and stay friends and don't push him in to being in a relationship with you or something like that..

It takes time, suppose its probably is better to stay friends until you see him again as well.

Think of the brighter side.

[sheilac0825]

Just remain friends with him, if you really want something from him. He sounds a little like those typical guys that people stick on guys the ones that just sleep with you and thats it. Your done.

Just keep talking to him and stay friends and don't push him in to being in a relationship with you or something like that..

It takes time, suppose its probably is better to stay friends until you see him again as well.

Think of the brighter side.

oh really thanks for all of you guys! all of ur words comfort me lots, really=P
Though this is hurt... but I hope I can quickly get over it
I now realise that staying friends with him is the better choice, if we're together, his personality will kill me! Sigh... I'll never trust someone that easy anymore, and LOVE at first sight is just too silly, yeah there's no love at first sight, that's LUST!!! hope I can meet a better guy n not to think abt him again
AHHH that's what i said but truly im still hoping to see him again.. it's hard to get through.. im too naive

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

oh really thanks for all of you guys! all of ur words comfort me lots, really=P
Though this is hurt... but I hope I can quickly get over it
I now realise that staying friends with him is the better choice, if we\'re together, his personality will kill me! Sigh... I\'ll never trust someone that easy anymore, and LOVE at first sight is just too silly, yeah there\'s no love at first sight, that\'s LUST!!! hope I can meet a better guy n not to think abt him again
AHHH that\'s what i said but truly im still hoping to see him again.. it\'s hard to get through.. im too naive

uhm let me get this straight...so you give your heart to this guy that you fell in love with in a club and known him for 2 days and he gets you in bed and you lose your virginity, you call him up and he doesnt call you back.....he then tells you he doesnt want anything to do with you realtionship wise because hes going back to UK and you STILL want to be friends with him? wow your a really nice person you will forgive anything!!!!!! gurl your making it truly seem like you have been with this guy forever.....he does not deserve for you to be missing him or caring about him.