When a child is compared to another.... |
 Aug 29 2006, 10:10 PM
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I know I'm older and don't live with my mom, but this is something that always held me back as a child, and something that pisses me off to this day.
I hate it when a parent compares her child to somebody else's child. For example: "Ashley, why can't you make better grades? Mrs. Thompson's daughter Lily makes straight A's, and she's not remarkably smart. I don't think you're trying hard enough." Or.. "Ashley, why can't you keep your room immaculate? Mrs. Thompson NEVER has to tell HER children to clean. You're such a bad child." People make mistakes. Furthermore, children are not even close to perfect. They're growing into an individual. Instead of comparing their faults to another's strengths, why not be more understanding? If you want your child to make better grades or to clean his/her room more often, try to find a more positive way to do it. Did anybody have to deal with this when growing up? How do you feel about it? |
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Aug 31 2006, 12:52 PM
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I've dealt with it growing up and I'm still dealing with it at age 30. My younger brother was somewhat of a prodigy. He stayed with the religion (everyone for generations has been (and still is) Mormon). I'm agnostic. So of course, many of my real life troubles are due to the fact that I have no faith. My brother also graduated from college when he was 21. I'm a junior college drop out, having decided to work full time and raise my child on my own. I am the only one in my family (including extended family) of legal consent that isn't married (nor has ever been married).
I am repeatedly reminded of what a success I could be should I follow in my brother's footsteps. It's a source of much contention and my mom and I will never be close in part, because of this constant comparison. Look - life hands everyone a different hand of cards. I've done what I can with my life and I am doing everything I can to take care of my child. That is my priority, not measuring up to anyone else. Period. One day my mother will understand this. If not, her loss. Not mine. |
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Mistress Bags When a child is compared to another.... Aug 29 2006, 10:10 PM
rawr SOCK UGH. I HATE THAT.
It's usually the other way ... Aug 29 2006, 10:16 PM bballchick1 Well, I never really had to deal with that, and ev... Aug 29 2006, 10:17 PM
dinoooRAWR QUOTE(bballchick1 @ Aug 29 2006, 7:17 PM)... Aug 30 2006, 09:29 PM Statues/Shadows I do more now than I did then, actually. My mom h... Aug 29 2006, 10:21 PM mzkandi Fortunately, my parents never did that. They had t... Aug 29 2006, 10:21 PM minixchopstix QUOTE(mzkandi @ Aug 29 2006, 8:21 PM) For... Aug 29 2006, 10:38 PM disco infiltrator OH yes.
-I got a B in my Math class.
--Why? Why d... Aug 29 2006, 10:28 PM mona lisa I hate it when that happens, and its almost always... Aug 29 2006, 10:34 PM xxscottypottyxx i use to get aloota of that crap when i was in cho... Aug 29 2006, 10:43 PM xlilaznchickx i hate it when my parents compare me with others..... Aug 29 2006, 11:58 PM _sarcastic_ it's always about the grades, my mom will alwa... Aug 30 2006, 12:36 AM Mahokaida My parents have never compared me to another perso... Aug 30 2006, 12:53 AM tic tac. My parents do it ALL the time. My dad compares me ... Aug 30 2006, 12:55 AM Spiritual Winged Aura ;O
I take it as a motivation. Aug 30 2006, 02:12 AM Funkadelic Kiss "Oh, why can't you dress like Jessica?... Aug 30 2006, 02:43 AM doom_diver On this topic, I agree with Spiritual Winged Aura:... Aug 30 2006, 04:54 AM Mistress Bags QUOTE(doom_diver @ Aug 30 2006, 4:54 AM) ... Aug 30 2006, 08:46 AM snak3y3z1001 QUOTE(doom_diver @ Aug 30 2006, 5:54 AM) ... Aug 30 2006, 09:51 AM Spiritual Winged Aura QUOTE(snak3y3z1001 @ Aug 30 2006, 7:51 AM... Aug 30 2006, 07:07 PM Jeng whats with all these topics x;
their good.i think.... Aug 30 2006, 06:55 AM soEXCLUSIVE My parents are kinda the opposite. When I get a le... Aug 30 2006, 09:16 AM Mr. Slowjamz i hate it when my parents overly criticize about y... Aug 30 2006, 12:08 PM angel_revelation i do lots of the time, and my mom uses one person ... Aug 30 2006, 06:10 PM swiftly_x_now My dad did that once. My school posts kids who get... Aug 30 2006, 06:47 PM SOOPER jue. OMG. yes. They do it all the times. Like "Jue... Aug 30 2006, 06:51 PM femme_fatale4160 I HATE that. Stuff like that can traumatize a kid... Aug 30 2006, 06:53 PM maguti I did, and I still am compared to other people tod... Aug 30 2006, 07:52 PM yrrnotelekktric i didnt/dont have a problem with this at home, but... Aug 30 2006, 08:38 PM Gypsy Eyes Please stop posting duplicate topics. Search befor... Aug 30 2006, 08:43 PM Mistress Bags I posted one duplicate topic, not several. I did s... Aug 30 2006, 09:03 PM doom_diver Spiritual Winged Aura:
May the holy spirits bless... Aug 30 2006, 09:18 PM Spiritual Winged Aura QUOTE(doom_diver @ Aug 30 2006, 7:18 PM) ... Aug 30 2006, 10:14 PM x___F0RG0TTEN ahh my parents always compare me to this girl who... Aug 30 2006, 09:57 PM doork Yup.. My mom and dad does that with me all the tim... Aug 30 2006, 10:27 PM juliar i think my mom tries not to do that, but once in a... Aug 31 2006, 10:52 AM |
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