When a child is compared to another.... Options

[Mistress Bags]

I know I'm older and don't live with my mom, but this is something that always held me back as a child, and something that pisses me off to this day.

I hate it when a parent compares her child to somebody else's child. For example: "Ashley, why can't you make better grades? Mrs. Thompson's daughter Lily makes straight A's, and she's not remarkably smart. I don't think you're trying hard enough."

Or..

"Ashley, why can't you keep your room immaculate? Mrs. Thompson NEVER has to tell HER children to clean. You're such a bad child."

People make mistakes. Furthermore, children are not even close to perfect. They're growing into an individual. Instead of comparing their faults to another's strengths, why not be more understanding? If you want your child to make better grades or to clean his/her room more often, try to find a more positive way to do it.

Did anybody have to deal with this when growing up? How do you feel about it?

[Mr. Slowjamz]

i hate it when my parents overly criticize about your personal skills and attributes ......i really got affected by it when i was younger ......and i took the comments very deeply ... .. i feel as though there doubting there kids and what there capable of doing . i come from an asian family so its really hard to escape from criticism they would compare you like its no tommorow ....but now i feel as though its important now ....i`m more tolerant about it , and i guess i understand why there doing it . theres so many people out in the world who are nice to you (might i say who take things differently) .....it will be hard to take criticism . once you`ll realize it .


hope that helps .