When a child is compared to another.... Options

[Mistress Bags]

I know I'm older and don't live with my mom, but this is something that always held me back as a child, and something that pisses me off to this day.

I hate it when a parent compares her child to somebody else's child. For example: "Ashley, why can't you make better grades? Mrs. Thompson's daughter Lily makes straight A's, and she's not remarkably smart. I don't think you're trying hard enough."

Or..

"Ashley, why can't you keep your room immaculate? Mrs. Thompson NEVER has to tell HER children to clean. You're such a bad child."

People make mistakes. Furthermore, children are not even close to perfect. They're growing into an individual. Instead of comparing their faults to another's strengths, why not be more understanding? If you want your child to make better grades or to clean his/her room more often, try to find a more positive way to do it.

Did anybody have to deal with this when growing up? How do you feel about it?

[*Funkadelic Kiss*]

"Oh, why can't you dress like Jessica?"
"Oh, why can't you be like Jessica, she never gets in trouble in school. Why do you alway start shit?"
"Oh, why are your grades shit, I'm starting to think you are mentally challenged."
"Oh, why are you a shitty ass daughter, I wish I never had you."
(Okay, I kinda exaggerated the last couple of lines but you know ).

I swear to God, I deal with this every f**king day. There's this girl named Jessica that I am always compared to. She's one of those typical straight A's students with straight A's friends. I get so sick of it. It made me feel like shit when I was younger but after all the years of being compared I really don't give a shit anymore. It's my life & my parents can't always have their ways. I usually tell them to "f**k off" or "Go adopt that bitch" or something along those lines. I know, you don't have to tell me what a caring, amazing, grateful, wonderful daughter .