Big problem.. so confused.. please help.... Options

[sheilac0825]

Sorry that it's a long story.

Well I met a guy in the club in H.K. at 24/8 night. I'm 17 n he's 18. He studied in UK Bristol, n now he's staying here for summer holiday. We fancied each other, I think it's like love at first sight or what. cuz he's really hot. he's been so sweet to me all the night. yes we did kiss each other n sth like that. n then when i left he asked me to give him my phone no.. well i just cant stop thinking abt him all the night.

then 25/8 was my bday (he knew that), he dated me out for dinner with his frens, he was really sweet that he wrote me a birthday card! We just liked the little couple.I like him lot.
after dinner we went to the bar, but unfortunately, we drunk n we had sex... though I didn't reject him at that time.but now when i think abt this, i felt i was so stupid n cheap..

then my bad dream came, at first i thought we'll be together n became couple. I phoned him the other morning, but then, he didnt answer my call. Even i text him, he never replies.
He called me back at night n gave so many excuses to explain y he didnt answer my call.

26/8 was like that
27/8 he kept ignoring me
28/8 also

he hurted me so bad, I cried. it's just because this is my first time n I'm still a virgin. I was just like a stupid girl.calling him everyday n he never answers..
I feel he dumped me and I was really hurt... I just want to see him again..

n today, 29/8
Finally we came out for dinner again, this time he changed a lot. he didnt held my hands when he saw me. he's so cool n we got nth to say, which is really embarrassing.

we went to the park.n i wanted him to tell me WHAT'S GOING ON these few days.
i had argued with him for a long time. i said i'll wait him. becuz i really like him..

then he told me that it's all becuz he had to go back to Bristol at 5, Sept.
and next time when he comes back it is X'mas holiday.
he don't think our love will last.. so he chose not to answer my call.
he wants us to stay friends.
he said it's better for us to be friends. it'll be more comfortable.
he said: " Look at urself, I didnt care u for a few days in HK, then u was like this,
how abt when i go back to UK? i wont have much time to call u everyday.
it's better if we stay friends now. If we still like each other when i come back at X'mas, we'll be together, OK? "


Sigh, at last i agreed with him..n he seemed relief
he promised me that he wont ignore my call anymore.
actually i thought he's irresponsible.. but what can i do?
I dont want to give up our relationship..
but i dont want myself being so annoying...
i just don't know what to do.......
can u guys help...

[imm]

Guys guys stop being so harsh. We all have to understand that virginity is a special thing to some and rude words mentioning the word "pathetic" isn't the way to go. Obviously this chica did something totally stupid and uncalled for and it's extremely hard to empathise/sympathise with her, but she already acknowledged the fact that she did something wrong so there's no need to rub it in her face.

I'd been in a similar situation not too long ago, but to a different extent. Unfortunately but obviously that was one of my follies and it hurt to basically the point of no return. It takes a lot of time and thinking on your own to heal, speaking from personal experience. At the moment it'll seem like there's no light at the end of the tunnel, but believe me, there is. Just do whatever you need to do to calm down, then you'll come to ponder about it sooner or later. The assistance of friends and loved chicas is soooo precious, even though admitting the situation can be embarassing and tough. I truly hope everything works out for you and just remember whatever you've learned. =)