Big problem.. so confused.. please help.... Options

[sheilac0825]

Sorry that it's a long story.

Well I met a guy in the club in H.K. at 24/8 night. I'm 17 n he's 18. He studied in UK Bristol, n now he's staying here for summer holiday. We fancied each other, I think it's like love at first sight or what. cuz he's really hot. he's been so sweet to me all the night. yes we did kiss each other n sth like that. n then when i left he asked me to give him my phone no.. well i just cant stop thinking abt him all the night.

then 25/8 was my bday (he knew that), he dated me out for dinner with his frens, he was really sweet that he wrote me a birthday card! We just liked the little couple.I like him lot.
after dinner we went to the bar, but unfortunately, we drunk n we had sex... though I didn't reject him at that time.but now when i think abt this, i felt i was so stupid n cheap..

then my bad dream came, at first i thought we'll be together n became couple. I phoned him the other morning, but then, he didnt answer my call. Even i text him, he never replies.
He called me back at night n gave so many excuses to explain y he didnt answer my call.

26/8 was like that
27/8 he kept ignoring me
28/8 also

he hurted me so bad, I cried. it's just because this is my first time n I'm still a virgin. I was just like a stupid girl.calling him everyday n he never answers..
I feel he dumped me and I was really hurt... I just want to see him again..

n today, 29/8
Finally we came out for dinner again, this time he changed a lot. he didnt held my hands when he saw me. he's so cool n we got nth to say, which is really embarrassing.

we went to the park.n i wanted him to tell me WHAT'S GOING ON these few days.
i had argued with him for a long time. i said i'll wait him. becuz i really like him..

then he told me that it's all becuz he had to go back to Bristol at 5, Sept.
and next time when he comes back it is X'mas holiday.
he don't think our love will last.. so he chose not to answer my call.
he wants us to stay friends.
he said it's better for us to be friends. it'll be more comfortable.
he said: " Look at urself, I didnt care u for a few days in HK, then u was like this,
how abt when i go back to UK? i wont have much time to call u everyday.
it's better if we stay friends now. If we still like each other when i come back at X'mas, we'll be together, OK? "


Sigh, at last i agreed with him..n he seemed relief
he promised me that he wont ignore my call anymore.
actually i thought he's irresponsible.. but what can i do?
I dont want to give up our relationship..
but i dont want myself being so annoying...
i just don't know what to do.......
can u guys help...

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

wow you lost your virginity to a HUGE loser. how long have you even known this guy? im sorry if you want me to sympathize with you but i really dont. girl you are 17 YEARS OLD. have you talked to your friends about guys who only want one thing are not the guys that are worth it? did you think that after having sex with him things would remain the same? not all guys remain the same. and its a huge RED FLAG that he doesnt want anything to do with you ESPECIALLY if he doesnt call you in such a long time.

pardon me for my rudness but i will be frank and absolutely honest with you. he just wanted to have sex and you gave to him wat he wanted so now he wants to forget that he ever met you by using the lame excuse that he was to go back to the UK and he wants to remain friends. if hes here right now and hes not even CALLING YOU what makes you sooo sure hes going to even call you back when he is in the UK? if people truley LOVE each other distance is not a problem, i know many people who have long distance realtionships and it works.

you need to value yourself more and dont have sex with a guy who says things that you want to hear. a realtionship is not all about sex and if it is then there is really nothing there for the both of you and if you think it works like that you have the wrong concept of wat true love is.

my big advice is just go out with a guy who actually respects you and values you as a person not how much sex you can give him before he leaves to the \"UK\".

GOODLUCK!!!!!