is the first the hardest? Options

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is a first boyfriend the hardest to get over??? cuz i was with this guy and i guess were done but i anbsolutely cant get over him ...its only been a day but im just dieing...its not only mentally and emotionally killing me but its actually causing me stomach pain and headaches and it hasnt left my mind for one second!! help!?!?

[*Uronacid*]

Hi, I had this same problem with my first girl-friend. your first love is usually what causes this kind of pain. Just so happens that many times people pour everything they have into their first relaitonship. I know your hurt, but you have to keep going. It's difficult, everything seems grey and blurry... the things people say to you probably sound distorted becuase of all the voices and thoughts running through your head.

Keep yourself busy, and try to hang out with your friends. Do things, go for walks, wright down your thoughts, work out... try to do phisical things. Also, talk to your friends about it. Don't keep it in... the more you let out, the less time it will take to get over the situation.

What was it that caused the breakup?

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Keep yourself busy, and try to hang out with your friends. Do things, go for walks, wright down your thoughts, work out... try to do phisical things. Also, talk to your friends about it. Don't keep it in... the more you let out, the less time it will take to get over the situation.

What was it that caused the breakup?

well technically we dint break up cuz we were never going out but it was as close to going out with out having labels ...we've said "i love you" to eachother tons of times...but it wasnt like old already that it lost its true meaning...we both said it everytime with full meaning...but yea so what caused this whole "rift" was 1)we stopped talking as often and 2)me n my sis were invited to a party...and so was my guy...and he brought a friend..a girl...and me n my sis were talking to this girl cuz my sis is also friends with this guy so we were being nice to his friend and she mentioned that shes liked him for a while and theyve been hanging out alot lately....so that explains why me n him stopped hanging out....

[*Uronacid*]

well technically we dint break up cuz we were never going out but it was as close to going out with out having labels ...we've said "i love you" to eachother tons of times...but it wasnt like old already that it lost its true meaning...we both said it everytime with full meaning...but yea so what caused this whole "rift" was 1)we stopped talking as often and 2)me n my sis were invited to a party...and so was my guy...and he brought a friend..a girl...and me n my sis were talking to this girl cuz my sis is also friends with this guy so we were being nice to his friend and she mentioned that shes liked him for a while and theyve been hanging out alot lately....so that explains why me n him stopped hanging out....

Ok, I'll tell you one thing. If he loved you he would have told you he was falling for someone else. You may have loved him (It's possible), but just hearing what you told me. It all seems to fabicated. I think that you guys were just infatuated with eachother. This creates and illusion of love. Your feelings are so strong you feel as if you would do anything for them, but when it comes right down to it. He meets another girl, falls for her, and doesn't say anything about it to you. If I was ever falling for another girl. I would tell Holly. Although it's difficult for her, and it sucks. I would tell her becuase I wouldn't want her to have feelings for someone who doesn't have feelingstowards her. I respect her, and that's why I would tell her.

The most important thing is to realize that not everyone in life is like that, and there is someoen else out there that will treat you the way you need to be treated. No matter how hard it is to realize that, you have to try. You have to believe it. You need to learn for this too. Maybe next time be more careful about loving somone. Guard your heart, and don't give it to someone because your desparate for love. Wait for soemone that you know will love you.