Part 2 of...what to do what to do..., more in depth Options

[brittney414211]

Ok i dont know if everyone has read the last post by me..."what to do what to do" but i just had some more stuff to say about it...My boyfriend is always making promises to me about stuff like i will come see you and i will call you ect. it always ends up to where he just DONT! im not the type of person that like to get my hopes up for nothing and i hate wasting days thinking he is going to come over at 2 and wont show up til 6 or 7 because he says he parents make him do so many chores before he can leave...and you know that gets old...and im getting tired of it...when i tell HIM im going to do something I DO! perfect example YESTERDAY "i will come see u right after work i promise" but he didnt have time to "I will call you at 9" ended up calling me at 12:30...but now the other guy...keeps his promises..."i will get on msn right when i get home" and he actually does...he doesnt make excuses...i always have to call my boyfriend to ask him why he didnt call or where he is at...and when i do i have to listen to excuses for 10 mins...i mean i love him to death and i dont know what i would do if i didnt have to around but im getting pushed past my limits...and i dont think i could ever break up with him....his family is horrible to him and he looks to me to make his life enjoyable some what and i do but it just doesnt seem like enought for him....when we get in fights or something he is always like i dont know what i would do if i didnt have you...i would probaly just kill myself b/c i dont have n e thing else to live for....then WHY DONT HE TREAT ME BETTER...i feel like he needs me when he is lonley but if he is with friends they take my place and im pushed aside AGAIN..there just isnt a easy way out of it...and i talked to the guy i sort of have a crush on and talked to him about it all...and he made it clear he would always be there if i needed to talk to him about n e thing...which made me feel better :D he is a sweetie!!!!

[*Uronacid*]

It looks like you have a conflict. You need to tell him what your feeling. Tell him that it bothers you when he doesn't do something if he says he is going to do it. It's not as if your are expecting him to call when he doesn't say he will. When my girlfriend says she is going to do something I exepect her to follow through with it, and if it's not possible I expect her to call me and tell me she can't. I also expect her to feel that very same way towards me. If I say that I'm going to do something, and I don't do what I said I would do. I expect her to make me feel sorry for it. It's not right when people saythey will do something and they don't do it. if he's going to kill himself, better let him know that it's his own fault. You wouldn't feel this way if he would just keep his word.

-try asking him to call you if he finds out that he won't be to do the things he says...