Um...., when is it selfish? Options

[*Uronacid*]

I'm having a bit of an issue myself... lately I have been not saying things out of fear of them possibly being selfish... like, alright if your consistantly getting nervous about something is it good to keep bringing it up and work on it together or try to ignore it so the your partner doesn't have to deal with your problems and issues? Like I love Holly, and is it truley the best for her if I talk about things that bother me all the time.... maybe sometimes ignorace is bliss... I know she's going to question this topic on the phone now... >.> I have been trying to act like nothing is wrong for the past week. It's working, but the truth is that I'm really stressed out... I haven't been eating much and I'm consistantly getting stomach aches... I'm trying to solve the issues on my own, and talk to my friends about them so she doesn't have too...

[AngelinaTaylor]

Do not hide things from her. God, that pisses me off so much about my ex, especially now when I KNOW something's going terribly wrong but he won't even talk to me anymore. You shouldn't lie to her. Because omitting these things is the same like lying. It's never selfish to share your problems.

[*Uronacid*]

Do not hide things from her. God, that pisses me off so much about my ex, especially now when I KNOW something's going terribly wrong but he won't even talk to me anymore. You shouldn't lie to her. Because omitting these things is the same like lying. It's never selfish to share your problems.

But don't you think that sometimes ignorance can be better... not knowing something could make things easier on you.

[*suddenly she*]

But don't you think that sometimes ignorance can be better... not knowing something could make things easier on you.

if there's someone i care about who's going through a rough time, i wouldn't want him/her to take it on alone. i'd rather split the weight.

i've a close friend who has tons of family crap going on, so i get how it is on the other side.
but i don't really know what to say back... i figure sorry doesn't cut it, and my pity or anyone else's pity is useless. all i end up doing is telling the person how much i love him, but is it enough? it feels pathetic compared to all his troubles.

even so, i'd rather be pathetic than be wrong in thinking that someone's perfectly fine.