Um...., when is it selfish? Options

[*Uronacid*]

I'm having a bit of an issue myself... lately I have been not saying things out of fear of them possibly being selfish... like, alright if your consistantly getting nervous about something is it good to keep bringing it up and work on it together or try to ignore it so the your partner doesn't have to deal with your problems and issues? Like I love Holly, and is it truley the best for her if I talk about things that bother me all the time.... maybe sometimes ignorace is bliss... I know she's going to question this topic on the phone now... >.> I have been trying to act like nothing is wrong for the past week. It's working, but the truth is that I'm really stressed out... I haven't been eating much and I'm consistantly getting stomach aches... I'm trying to solve the issues on my own, and talk to my friends about them so she doesn't have too...

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

Dude sometimes it takes two to solve the problem together, One might not be enough to do it by your self. If you both love each other, I bet she'll stand by you and support you regardless of how selfish you are with the problem you have. That's one thing in a relationship is to make sure you both understand each other, and pretending everything is OK is only going to get worse, it's like lying. So my answer to you is, you may be the MAN and have to handle things on your own, but theres too in the relationship and whatever you have problems with Impacts on the other. Talk it ouy, let her lend you hand. I'm pretty sure she wants to help you as well.

[*Uronacid*]

Dude sometimes it takes two to solve the problem together, One might not be enough to do it by your self. If you both love each other, I bet she'll stand by you and support you regardless of how selfish you are with the problem you have. That's one thing in a relationship is to make sure you both understand each other, and pretending everything is OK is only going to get worse, it's like lying. So my answer to you is, you may be the MAN and have to handle things on your own, but theres too in the relationship and whatever you have problems with Impacts on the other. Talk it ouy, let her lend you hand. I'm pretty sure she wants to help you as well.

thanks... you know, you sound alot like me when I'm talking to other people... :] I like that because I understand you... maybe love is talking abut issues that you cannot solve on your own... It may be selfish, but if you do love them and your trying to be the best you can for them... then maybeyou would want to be with them and talk to them about your issues so your relationship doesn't become worse... hmmm... but isn't ignorance bliss sometimes... I mean, isn't it bettter to keep things to yourself if you think that you may just get over it anyways... well, I don't know, but I don't think she will do the things I'm thinking I just fear certainthings happening and keep my mouth shut because I don't want to bother her all the time...