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Ok guys. One of my best friends named Mondo doesn't like me anymore because I've gotten to know this kid named Aaron. I hate this. Just because I try to be friends with everyone, I lose one of my close friends. It's like that with adults too. They think because you're associated with one group that you're just as bad. It really is unfair and immature. Grr. That happened to me a while back. This has really been getting me down cause Aaron's cool but Mondo doesn't like him for some reason. I guess people aren't allowed to actually be nice to everyone anymore. And for the record, I hardly ever talk to Aaron but Mondo doesn't believe me. Any suggestions? Have you ever been in this situation? I'd love to hear some stories. I think I'm gonna call Mondo and talk to him more about it.

Oh, and this might belong in Relationships. I wasn't sure. Move it if you must. I'd rather it be in here so I can get some help but it's cool.

Edit// Geez, views but no replies? Come on, I need help! haha. I'm so confused.

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If it's jealousy.... he needs to get over it... talk to him

I tried to think outside the box to see if it may be somethign else... here's what I thought of...

Look, I know that I pick and choose the crowds that I hang out with, becuase I don't want to be influenced to do the things that the wrong crowds do. I always say this to people, "You hang out with shit-heads, you will become a shit-head; but if you hang with good people, you will gain the qualities of good people." It's possible that your friends aren't leaving you, but rather not hanging out with because they see you hanging out with people that they don't want to be influenced by. The adults are probably looking down on you because they think that you may be turning into soemoen who will cause trouble or become associated with a bad crowd.

When you hang out with someone you begin to inherit some of their traits and quilities. Did you ever notice how people who do drugs hang out with people who do drugs. Also, did you ever notice how when someone new starts hanging out with someone who does drugs they eventually either start trying drugs themselves or start hanging out less with the person who is doing those drugs. You can't hang out with someone who has negative potent negative qualities without subejecting yourself to change. No matter how strong you are you will either make the choice to hang out with that person less or start trying some of the things that they are doing.

There is one thing you can do tho... you can influence them to do the right thing, but it's difficult... people can't change unless they either want to or it's subconcious.