how do you know your in love..... |
 Aug 5 2006, 09:45 AM
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how do you know your in love....I've been questioning this for a long time now...not that i think i'm in love...i just don't want to get smacked in the face when it happens...it shouldn't be a surpise though...did you know there are different types of love....i learned about that in a psychology class...which one might you be experiencing
Sternberg's triagular theory of love...involves three main qualities 1.intamacy...this doesn't refer to sex in refers to the bond that you have formed with the other person...your giving and receiving, understanding,communication,support  2. Passion...the sexuality, romance,chemistry  3.commitment...long term or short term These combine together to show different patterns of love Pattern Passion Intimacy Commitment Infatuation Yes No No (obsession) Affectionate No Yes Yes (Companion) Fatuous Yes No Yes (worship from distance) Consummate Yes Yes Yes (complete) Non-Love No No No (stranger) Liking No Yes No (friendship) Romantic Yes Yes No Empty Love No No Yes (an arranged marriage) this is just a chart though...i know i shouldn't base love on this but it's a neat way of looking at it...you can even look at it to compare if you really love some of your friends... there's no way love is a single concept... there are plenting of studies on how people love and how to have the best type of love...it all depends on what kind of tiem you want to putinto a relationship i guess well comment away...What kind of love do you think you have with your closest person |
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Aug 6 2006, 08:56 PM
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Yes. Because sometimes you have to let go to do whats best for them.
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Aug 6 2006, 08:57 PM
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QUOTE(Just2Fresh @ Aug 6 2006, 9:56 PM)  Yes. Because sometimes you have to let go to do whats best for them. Yes, think of a situation.... I have some that I came up with... but I want to see what other people think... |
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Aug 6 2006, 09:27 PM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Aug 6 2006, 9:57 PM) Yes, think of a situation.... I have some that I came up with... but I want to see what other people think... I believe sometimes letting go is the greatest act of love. This one is very cliche, but say a dream opportunity opened up for her. It might be an internship in France or a full ride to Harvard Law. You both know that this is what she's always wanted. But you both know that if she takes the opportunity she'll be too busy/distracted/far away for the relationship to continue. Gently letting her go so she can pursue this chance will ease the guilt on her behalf. And being in love is a crazy thing. You can't really tell, one day you'll wake up and it'll slap you in the face. That you're in love.  P.S. To uronacid: I never got a chance to thank you and Holly for your advice on jealousy issues. I appreciated it very much. Results coming in soon. :) |
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stanza on the wall how do you know your in love..... Aug 5 2006, 09:45 AM
This Confession Yea its a neat way to look at it I suppose.
I als... Aug 5 2006, 10:17 AM _sarcastic_ mine is probably either Romantic or Consummate. Aug 5 2006, 01:57 PM yrrnotelekktric ...you just know i guess, Aug 5 2006, 04:39 PM T0rmented_Soul uhmm intimacy and passion Aug 5 2006, 05:13 PM The E-Man My sister always said that you were in love when y... Aug 5 2006, 05:42 PM iROCKYOURSOCKS well you will know when you are in love.
i think ... Aug 5 2006, 08:36 PM xcaitlinx mine is consummate (complete)...you know you'r... Aug 5 2006, 10:46 PM lyin_in_wait i believe if you have to ask yourself if your in l... Aug 6 2006, 01:27 PM candy_coated_kisses So many times younger people think theyre in love ... Aug 6 2006, 07:57 PM Just2Fresh Love doesnt need science or some scientest telling... Aug 6 2006, 08:23 PM Uronacid Love is simpley doing what's best for someone.... Aug 6 2006, 08:55 PM
Uronacid QUOTE(Listelle @ Aug 6 2006, 10:27 PM) I ... Aug 6 2006, 09:45 PM xbabyboo I guess when you feel like that person is the one ... Aug 7 2006, 12:47 AM mipadi Oh, you'll know. Aug 7 2006, 08:55 AM just_rissa For me, I knew that I was in love, I just didn... Aug 8 2006, 01:39 AM |
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