This is my situation., help/adviced is appreciated. Options

[shigger_sweetie]

Here's my situation.
I really need some assurance or something.
Male or Female opinions it doesn't matter.
This is a tad long so please don't fret.

Ill start of by giving some detailed information.
>Im going to be a Junior this fall. Highschool.
<I'm a pretty tall lad. 6 footer.
>I have about 2 long term close/best friends.
Not to mention i do have alot of friends.
But those 2 are the ones i knew since kindergarten.

My two close friends are all going to be juniors like me, and we go to different schools. Not too long ago before we entered high school, we all have changed dramatically. My best friend "K" has changed alot. She has numerous of guys numbers and talks to many of them. She cares about how she looks and dresses twenty-four seven. Which I'm not knockin' because I do too. [Just not 24/7]. She has had boyfriends, interacted sexually with them. Right now at this moment she is single slash taken. Its confusing so Ill leave it at that. But she hasnt had actual sex yet. Which I hope she waits. She doesnt smoke or drink, which Im glad. She's goes to school, but doesnt really go up to her needs. She lets petty stuff distract her. Her grades could be better. But she's became a little too... FAST. I don't really like that term but I can't think of anything else.

My close friend "C" has changed alot too. She smokes [weed], but she said she stopped which I really don't think is true. She has had sex more then once. She has many of guys numbers too. And talks to them. She has a boyfriend, her 5th one. She has had sex with each of them. And haven't stayed in the relationship for no more then 2 or 3 months. Her guy choice really isn't all that great either. She's kind of off and on about school. To tell you the truth I don't know if she will go to school this fall. She in a tough situation herself. Which I understand. She's a foster child. But my motto is that's not an excuse for her behavior because she stays with her Aunt and Uncle and 2 cousins. She became.. well highly experienced now.

[size=3]What is this leading too you ask?

Im the complete opposite from them.
I'm at times ashame to admit it to people, but Im [well according to my two friends] the "goody goody" one in the group. I mean yeah I know you try things in your highschool years. But I think what there doing is a little too overboard. Like they do those things for the Pride of it. To be proud of what they got.
I have not had my first kiss yet Im 16.
I'm still a virgin and damn proud.
I have had one boyfriend but it really wasn't a relationship. More just good friends.
I never smoked anything. . .nor have I drinked.
I get above average grades..and plan on going to a university.
I play sports, something I love.
I have never been to an actual party like drinking dancing and all that.

Now don't get me wrong Im not the type of person that thinks its oh so horrible. Some of it is, but not all of it. Nor do I think that Im too good for that. It's just I choose not to do that stuff. Yeah Im still a cool 16 year old girl. And I'm tall, Im taller then majority of guys and my friends say this to me alot, "oh we can't find guys for you, your so gigantic". I mean I would really love to have a boyfriend[usually someone my height or taller], or my first kiss, not right now, but this junior year maybe.

There's just questions about all this I ask myself alot:
Am I behind or not up to speed since majority of teens have done the basic things I have not even done yet?
Is it normal?
Do highschool guys even like tall slim girls?
Should I feel like the "goody goody" one in my group because I havent done the things my close friends have done?


Help is really needed here. Guys and Gals with some pointers/advice/thoughts or whatever is encouraged right now.
-Zoey

[Chii]

What do you mean "Never will I start doing drugs or become a drinker like them"? From what I read only one of them does drugs and that's it. Neither of them drink.

How do you know if they do those things just to be proud? Just because you're not into that kind of stuff doesn't mean that they're just doing it for show. Maybe they truly enjoy being sexual. I enjoy being sexual and I don't tell the world about it to show off...or at least I don't mean to. I don't find my sexual history degrading and I started being sexually active when I was about 14/15. I was sexually active because that was what I wanted, not because I wanted recognition or whatnot. Hell, I was the one who made the first move when I was 14.

If you're proud to be a virgin and proud of all that other goody goody stuff then why are you so concerned about whether or not it's normal? Live your life the way you want to. If you want to be a prude, then be a prude. So what if your friends are sexually active? Let them live their life and "don't knock it unless you've tried it."

[shigger_sweetie]

What do you mean "Never will I start doing drugs or become a drinker like them"? From what I read only one of them does drugs and that's it. Neither of them drink.

How do you know if they do those things just to be proud? Just because you're not into that kind of stuff doesn't mean that they're just doing it for show. Maybe they truly enjoy being sexual. I enjoy being sexual and I don't tell the world about it to show off...or at least I don't mean to. I don't find my sexual history degrading and I started being sexually active when I was about 14/15. I was sexually active because that was what I wanted, not because I wanted recognition or whatnot. Hell, I was the one who made the first move when I was 14.

If you're proud to be a virgin and proud of all that other goody goody stuff then why are you so concerned about whether or not it's normal? Live your life the way you want to. If you want to be a prude, then be a prude. So what if your friends are sexually active? Let them live their life and "don't knock it unless you've tried it."

What I mean by never is that Im not going to do it.
I have seen what has happened to my other friend. And I know its just not the life for me.
I know they are proud of it because they tell me. Its not like im sitting there just guessing about them. I have known them since we were 4 years old. They rant and rave about it to me. Im their live walking diary. Im not going to tell them stop talking to me about their lives because they are my friends and I'm always there to help them whenever something happens. Thats nice and all that your sexually active. But how we grew up and how we were raised and what we were taught, doing all those bad things [such as sex at such a young age, smoking, drinking, and all this other shit, at a young age] are sad and ridiculous. And I don't consider myself GOODY GOODY, that's what they say about me. I just considered myself on the right path.
And it's not a so what if my friends are sexually active because I care about their health. Im not gonna let it slip passed my mind when I know they are having uprotected oral sex/sex. I care about them. And I want them to find the better joys of life rather then doing some of the things they do.