What causes paranoia? Options

[dorkk-ie]

What mainly causes someone to be really paranoid in a relationship...
and HOW DO U HELP YOURSELF/YOUR PARTNER become less paranoid...

[*mipadi*]

Generally, it's a result of insecurity. The "cure" is simply stated but difficult to achieve. To stop being paranoid, you have to be content and happy with yourself. You have to embrace the idea that you're fine how you are, that people want to be your friends or significant other, and that, while you are open to change and personal improvement, overall you're a pretty good person.

[dorkk-ie]

Generally, it's a result of insecurity. The "cure" is simply stated but difficult to achieve. To stop being paranoid, you have to be content and happy with yourself. You have to embrace the idea that you're fine how you are, that people want to be your friends or significant other, and that, while you are open to change and personal improvement, overall you're a pretty good person.

how can i help him achieve that..?
he's scared of losing me.. i want him to understand there is no other guy out there for me right now. he's a really good boyfriend when it all comes down to it.. i wanna tell him that there is no body esle , and that i <3 him and only him... but what can i do when he dont believe me.... i dunno, i feel so hopeless =/

[*mipadi*]

how can i help him achieve that..?
he's scared of losing me.. i want him to understand there is no other guy out there for me right now. he's a really good boyfriend when it all comes down to it.. i wanna tell him that there is no body esle , and that i <3 him and only him... but what can i do when he dont believe me.... i dunno, i feel so hopeless =/

Hm, good question. You know, I used to be a pretty paranoid person, too. My friends tried to be nice about it. They coddled me. They never came out and told me I was being a jerk, so I never got over it. I never learned to accept myself.

And then one night my friend, this girl that I also liked, just came out and told me I was being a "bastard" most of the time. And sure, at first I was upset—but then I realized she was right, and thanks to her honesty, I was able to take a good, hard look at myself, and realize what I had been doing wrong.

Moral of the story: Sometimes you have to tell your loved ones that they're being little bitches.

Now, don't get me wrong, it's cool to try to be nice to people and help them. But maybe your boyfriend just needs someone close to him to come out and tell him the truth: that he's being ridiculous and he needs to get over it.

[*Uronacid*]

Hm, good question. You know, I used to be a pretty paranoid person, too. My friends tried to be nice about it. They coddled me. They never came out and told me I was being a jerk, so I never got over it. I never learned to accept myself.

And then one night my friend, this girl that I also liked, just came out and told me I was being a "bastard" most of the time. And sure, at first I was upset—but then I realized she was right, and thanks to her honesty, I was able to take a good, hard look at myself, and realize what I had been doing wrong.

Moral of the story: Sometimes you have to tell your loved ones that they're being little bitches.

Now, don't get me wrong, it's cool to try to be nice to people and help them. But maybe your boyfriend just needs someone close to him to come out and tell him the truth: that he's being ridiculous and he needs to get over it.

yes, this is true... juat becuase I said to chow that you love him doesn't mean that you have to act like it's not a big deal. Sometimes loving someone involves telling them off when they are wrong. I mean, it doesn't mean you cuss them out, but It does mean you have to tell them how it is. You can tell him he's being unreasonabe without flippng out, btu at the same time let him know your serious. You have to tell your loved ones when they are doing you wrong. It's the only way they will ever know enough to stop.