MY BFS MOM HATES ME!!!, things are getting worse Options

[CO0KiE]

[font=Arial]this is pretty long so be prepared ^_^

hmm ok well first i met this guy Elmer.. a lllooooong time ago! about a few years ago. i had a crush on him and he had a crush on me... but we never saw each other after that.. THEN i met him again in sept.2005` at a YFC Camp. we remembered each other but didnt really talk. he gave me his number and since the last day of camp.. weve been talking EVERY SINGLE DAY even up til` around 4am. wed both get in trouble alot too. finally on Jan. 06, 2006 at 1:43am HE ASKED ME OUT <333 3 days before my birthday ! but ever since he and i talk on the phone.. his mom n dad never liked me. my mom&dad never knew either. >.< a few weeks after we were going out i had a bad feeling about that day.. & i was right. His mom told my aunt about me & him and she told my mom!!!! my mom talked to me.. & she thinks hes my first BF but he isnt.. =] IM HIS first GF cuz hes always been lookin` for the right girl that he wanted to be with. weeeellllll.. amazingly my mom WANTED me to tell her and she thought it was cute. she kept asking why i chose him.. but yeah. THEN.. things get worse.. his dads always yelling at him. and his parents are such SDHFDGGH yeah ! grr.. his dad doesnt really care && my parents talked to him. MY DAD DOESNT KNOW ABOUT ME & HIM. but my mom knows. one day a few months ago elmer told me he wouldnt hug me until i talked to his mom. so i gathered all my courage and walked up to her with a friend of mine. his mom IGNORED ME THE HOLE TIME!! i was so upset. she acts like a teenager. she told him she AUTOMATICALLY knew who i was & what kinda girl i was with just one look at me. WTF IS THAT ?! then she talks SOOO much mess about me.. shes like a damn` kid or something. ugh. i try to be nice.. i respect her & all that but shes so MEAN. she cant hold onto him forever. sdghogfiogh AGH ! & she MAD ALSO cuz i invite him to the movies and parties.. WTF ? THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH DOING THAT!!!!! his mom is so closeminded too!! jeez` Elmers always defending me and his mom gets mad when he does that. we dont see each other alot.. just.. a few times a month.. the longest ive gone without seeing him is about 2 months ? hmm && right now.. last time i saw him was 2 weeks ago. jeez` idk what his moms problem is. i dont understand her and she doesnt even wanna get to know me or anything ! my aunt is trying to set up a gathering thing for my parents & his & my aunt & whatever.. but his moms being a bitch` & doesnt wanna. my parents dont like his mom so whatever. idk..

HELP ME ! how am i supposed to deal with this !? i love him so much..

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but things are just getting worse & i dont really know how to explain the rest of it..

[Dreamers]

I dont have lovelife experience but i seriosly think you should be straight up maybe sugarcoat it a lil but tell his mom how you feel i would say something like this(not saying you should, i have no experience loo, but this is how i would deal!)

I have a few issues with the way im being treated like, how do you know who i am with just looking at me?! I bet if you talked to me then you would you know who i am. But ill tell you 1 thing about me right now! I DO NOT like being treated the way your treating me! I don't know you very well, I'm sure your actually a very likeable person but right now, your acting a lil...well...rude...If you have issues with me, just tell me! Cause i have issues with you and here they are! You don't even know me! how do you know what I'm like! your acting like a kid! I've tried to be respectable but I can take this anymore! I really care about your son, if you think im out to hurt him then your wrong!
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THat alk would probably get you in trouble but i would say that

[CO0KiE]

I dont have lovelife experience but i seriosly think you should be straight up maybe sugarcoat it a lil but tell his mom how you feel i would say something like this(not saying you should, i have no experience loo, but this is how i would deal!)

I have a few issues with the way im being treated like, how do you know who i am with just looking at me?! I bet if you talked to me then you would you know who i am. But ill tell you 1 thing about me right now! I DO NOT like being treated the way your treating me! I don't know you very well, I'm sure your actually a very likeable person but right now, your acting a lil...well...rude...If you have issues with me, just tell me! Cause i have issues with you and here they are! You don't even know me! how do you know what I'm like! your acting like a kid! I've tried to be respectable but I can take this anymore! I really care about your son, if you think im out to hurt him then your wrong!
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THat alk would probably get you in trouble but i would say that

haha thanks ^_^ yeah i dont understand her.. shes so irritating ! his birthday is on august11 but im trying to throw him a suprise bday party on aug.18th or august20th but i probably CANT do it cuz his mom wont let him go out anywhere & it would really hurt cuz ive never thrown a bday party before and i really wanted him to like it.. =/ and im not the type to disrespect adults-- only my older bro & my grandma.. sfghyfgu so irritating.. & shes tryina` seperate us..

well i would suggest you have a long talk with your boyfriend with his mom and right there say in front of her that she has been extremly rude and you would like to know why she has been rude. but your boyfriend HAS TO BE THERE because if you guys want to get through this whole mom problem them it needs to be together and not along with your friend or anything but both of you. you can tell his mom that its really unfair that she has to judge someone just by looking at them and tell her that you want to be with her son and wouldnt do anything to hurt him. jus talk to her and be really calm and respectful when you talk to her dont lose your head and start yelling at her or cussing because in the end if she acts like a teenager and you like a mature teenager your boyfriend will realize how crazy his mom is.

well yeah idk but his mom just hung up on me when my bf put the phone down and went awayfor alittle while. now hes mad and all that other ish` but idk.. she said she feels uncomfortable with me around her. JEEZ` IM NOT GONNA RAPE HER !

i think you should respect how other people's parents think of you. if you really can't stand it, just kiss ass to her by buying her stuff and complimenting her. i mean, if you really like a person, no one should get in the way of that.

but im not the type to act fake & do something just to try & please someone.. >.< and plus she wont listen to me even if i try to talk to her