What causes paranoia? Options

[dorkk-ie]

What mainly causes someone to be really paranoid in a relationship...
and HOW DO U HELP YOURSELF/YOUR PARTNER become less paranoid...

[*mipadi*]

Generally, it's a result of insecurity. The "cure" is simply stated but difficult to achieve. To stop being paranoid, you have to be content and happy with yourself. You have to embrace the idea that you're fine how you are, that people want to be your friends or significant other, and that, while you are open to change and personal improvement, overall you're a pretty good person.

[*Uronacid*]

Generally, it's a result of insecurity. The "cure" is simply stated but difficult to achieve. To stop being paranoid, you have to be content and happy with yourself. You have to embrace the idea that you're fine how you are, that people want to be your friends or significant other, and that, while you are open to change and personal improvement, overall you're a pretty good person.

this is true too

are there some ways i can make a paranoid person whose lost trust in me, feel loved.....?

my bf doesn't believe me when i tell him i do not hav feelings for this other guy. we talk a lot, yes. apparently enough that someone would say that we're going out... (the other guy+me)=/ WE'RE NOT THOUGH. i really really like my boyfriend, i dont' want something like this to destroy everything we have... i've tried telling him, but he's really hurt right now.
what can i do to make him listen to me and believe that the only guy i like is him?
or according to josh's advice....make him feel loved at the state he is at now..

well, what specifically is it about the relationship that he is scared of? If it's something specific you can talk about it. Try to understand him, and then help him understand you. Whatever you do, don't change who you are or stop hanging out with your freinds. If you aren't doing anything wrong with your friends don't stop. It will only make him trust you less or be more paranoid when you hang out with any guy. Subconciously. he may feel as though you might have stoped just because you were doing something wrong. it won't help him get over it. You are loving him by continueing your life style and being yourself.