What causes paranoia? Options

[dorkk-ie]

What mainly causes someone to be really paranoid in a relationship...
and HOW DO U HELP YOURSELF/YOUR PARTNER become less paranoid...

[*Uronacid*]

Hmmm.... I'm Josh by the way, well...

WHAT IS THE CAUSE
I'll tell you, alot of things cuase paranoia... paranoia is caused by fear. These fears could be derived from anything... in a relationship, it's generally the fear of loosing your partner, but what specifically triggers it...

TRIGGERS
Hmmm, well for me paranioa is triggered by things that remind me of my past. My first relationship really messed me up. It was extremely unhealthy towards the end of the relationship. I was hurt really bad. Now, if holly does anything the even remotly reminds me of the relationship I once had... I completely freak out... I am deathly afriad of expeirencing that again. I look at everything she does with such detail because I'm always on the look-out for signs of my previous relationship.

WHAT CAN YOU DO
DO NOT CHANGE THE THINGS YOU DO IN YOUR NORMAL LIFE!!! ! DON'T LET OUR PARANOIA CONTROL WHO YOU ARE!!! Stay who you are, do not change who you are becuase they are paranoid. Don't treat us paranoid poeple differently becuase you are afriad of makeing us freak out. Instead, let us freak out, and tell us how much you care, and show us that there is nothing to be afriad of. Explain to them the truth about we are freaking out about, and don't leave out any detail. Paranoid people think about EVERY POSSIBLITY, eliminate every possiblity!!!! Don't get offended about what we think... we don't think bad things on purpose, it's almost subconcious. Make us feel loved. There are sometimes that I feel so worthless. I feel like such a job... I don't want to be, but I don't know how not to be... anything anyone says or does doesn't help... You really just need to help us get over our fears...

CONCLUSION
I know that it sounds like a job. It is, but it's your choice. We know that... It accually only makes us feel crappy, and feel like we wish we were someone else. erf... just be loving, and be very understanding... even tho we can be horribly stupid at times...