I am so confused its not even funny. Options

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Ok, This is not spam to start out with..

Ok me and my boyfriend have been going out 10 months on August 6. (Holy shit 10 months..) Tonight we got to talking and we both brought up sex.. STAY WITH ME.. ok, me... I kinda wanna get married but..thats a sorta.. I DO NOT WANT KIDS.. Him, He dosent wanna get married and he dosen't want kids eather.. ANYWAY.. I start talking to him how I wanna wait to have sex till im married.. <-- Lie.. -_- I wanted to see what he would do. He got really frushtrated and got pissed and he said.. " YOU KNOW THAT I DONT WANNA GET MARRIED!" Right there and then he was about to dump me right on the spot. Then I told him that I wanted to see what he would do if I do so.. H was like.. " Did it help any? "

Right now I really dont know.. it kind of bothers me how he would dump me just like that.. I that to me would have felt liek a big waste of time. I really to love him and care about him alot.. He understands that I wont have sex right now with him because I am going in to the 10th grade..

I JUST AM SO CONFUSED

Advice..

Please help

[*Uronacid*]

you guys changed my opinions of dating... hmmm....

new view:

It's like maybe you should just date to see what you want in a future partner. I mean, just to get a better understanding of what you want in a future partner and help each other out, but does that means that you shouldn't get serious?

[*mipadi*]

you guys changed my opinions of dating... hmmm....

new view:

It's like maybe you should just date to see what you want in a future partner. I mean, just to get a better understanding of what you want in a future partner and help each other out, but does that means that you shouldn't get serious?

I think you're making it more complicated than it needs to be. The thing about relationships is you can't plan them out. You can't really go into them with a goal per se. But you can't go into them with an apathetic mindset, either.

When I meet new people that I think I could be friends with, I don't think, "Hm, now, should I try to become friends with this person? What if we're not friends three years ago? What if this guy isn't a lifelong friend? What if things aren't perfect?" I just talk to them, and we become friends. Some of my friends have lasted a long time. Some are rather short-lived and last only a semester or so.

The point is, a romantic relationship isn't much more than a close friendship with a deeper commitment and a deeper connection. You can't go into one thinking, "Alright, this is going to be the person I'm going to marry, or there's no point to this whole thing." You just kick it off and see where it goes. You do your best to make it work out, just like you do your best to make sure you don't lose friends. If it works out, great; if not, then you both have to recognize that, and just move on.

The thing is, dating isn't always about marriage. You can learn a lot, and grow a lot, from personal relationships, including dating. I think it's, well, foolish to suggest that a teenager should be dating with the goal of marriage. A teenager should be dating because it's fun, it feels right, and it helps you grow as a person.