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 Jul 28 2006, 08:33 PM
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Ok, This is not spam to start out with..
 Ok me and my boyfriend have been going out 10 months on August 6. (Holy shit 10 months..) Tonight we got to talking and we both brought up sex.. STAY WITH ME.. ok, me... I kinda wanna get married but..thats a sorta.. I DO NOT WANT KIDS.. Him, He dosent wanna get married and he dosen't want kids eather.. ANYWAY.. I start talking to him how I wanna wait to have sex till im married.. <-- Lie.. -_- I wanted to see what he would do. He got really frushtrated and got pissed and he said.. " YOU KNOW THAT I DONT WANNA GET MARRIED!" Right there and then he was about to dump me right on the spot. Then I told him that I wanted to see what he would do if I do so.. H was like.. " Did it help any? " Right now I really dont know.. it kind of bothers me how he would dump me just like that.. I that to me would have felt liek a big waste of time. I really to love him and care about him alot.. He understands that I wont have sex right now with him because I am going in to the 10th grade.. I JUST AM SO CONFUSED Advice.. Please help 
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Jul 31 2006, 11:04 AM
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 daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ You really think all teenagers KNOW whether they really want to get married? For instance, I don't. Sometimes I find myself hating the thought of marriage (because I'm more of a career person), but sometimes I just think this society's built for families. You don't always have to think about marriage in a relationships. Some people date for fun. Anyway. He was ready to "dump" you right there because he thought you wouldn't have sex? Wow. Leave him, he's not worth it. He seems just like almost all other idiots. Have some dignity.. And, man, mipadi's always right. |
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Jul 31 2006, 11:13 AM
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QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Jul 31 2006, 12:04 PM)  ^ You really think all teenagers KNOW whether they really want to get married? For instance, I don't. Sometimes I find myself hating the thought of marriage (because I'm more of a career person), but sometimes I just think this society's built for families. You don't always have to think about marriage in a relationships. Some people date for fun. Anyway. He was ready to "dump" you right there because he thought you wouldn't have sex? Wow. Leave him, he's not worth it. He seems just like almost all other idiots. Have some dignity.. And, man, mipadi's always right. You don't always think about marraige in a relationship XD... I'm just saying that if you find that you know that you couldn't live with that person then whats the piont of dating them if you know that you will break up with them anyways? Why go through the heart break when you could just be f**k buddies? Personally, I don't find it fun breaking peoples hearts after I leave the relationship. I also don't think it would be very fun if the person I was dating said to me, "sorry, I was dating you for fun..." mipadi isn't always right |
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Jul 31 2006, 11:16 AM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jul 31 2006, 12:13 PM) You don't always think about marraige in a relationship XD... I'm just saying that if you find that you know that you couldn't live with that person then whats the piont of dating them if you know that you will break up with them anyways? Why go through the heart break when you could just be f**k buddies? I know what you're saying, but sometimes people aren't that committed to think about moving in/getting married and all that. Especially young teens. Not everyone you date will be the ONE you want to end up with forever. If you feel like they're your "soul mate", or whatever, sure - never hurts to talk about it. Let me ask you this: has every relationship of yours been so serious that you've talked about those things? |
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Jul 31 2006, 11:24 AM
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QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Jul 31 2006, 12:16 PM) I know what you're saying, but sometimes people aren't that committed to think about moving in/getting married and all that. Especially young teens. Not everyone you date will be the ONE you want to end up with forever. If you feel like they're your "soul mate", or whatever, sure - never hurts to talk about it. I agree, I'm not saying that you make the descision right then and there that you want to marry the person, but you do need to look for things that you know you couldn't live with. You can't change people, and you can't expect people to change into the person you can be with in the long term. Therefore, when you are dating someoen that clearly says, "I NEVER WANT TO GET MARRIED...." Why should you continue dating that person... I'm not saying you consistantly talk about it and think about, but you both need to have the same goals when going into a relationship. If one of my partners goals was clearly to never get married... I would not want to date them... It makes me feel like, "Well, we are eventually going to break up anyways.. whats the piont? we don't even have the same goals..." |
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