I am so confused its not even funny. Options

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Ok, This is not spam to start out with..

Ok me and my boyfriend have been going out 10 months on August 6. (Holy shit 10 months..) Tonight we got to talking and we both brought up sex.. STAY WITH ME.. ok, me... I kinda wanna get married but..thats a sorta.. I DO NOT WANT KIDS.. Him, He dosent wanna get married and he dosen't want kids eather.. ANYWAY.. I start talking to him how I wanna wait to have sex till im married.. <-- Lie.. -_- I wanted to see what he would do. He got really frushtrated and got pissed and he said.. " YOU KNOW THAT I DONT WANNA GET MARRIED!" Right there and then he was about to dump me right on the spot. Then I told him that I wanted to see what he would do if I do so.. H was like.. " Did it help any? "

Right now I really dont know.. it kind of bothers me how he would dump me just like that.. I that to me would have felt liek a big waste of time. I really to love him and care about him alot.. He understands that I wont have sex right now with him because I am going in to the 10th grade..

I JUST AM SO CONFUSED

Advice..

Please help

[*mipadi*]

I don't mean to be a wet blanket, but come on, you're both pretty young. Why are you even worrying about having discussions regarding sex, sex before marriage, marriage, kids, etc.? Shouldn't you be talking about video games or emo music or something? Just ease into relationships and relax a bit. Don't feel pressured by the media or your peers to worry about sex and marriage right now.

[*Uronacid*]

I don't mean to be a wet blanket, but come on, you're both pretty young. Why are you even worrying about having discussions regarding sex, sex before marriage, marriage, kids, etc.? Shouldn't you be talking about video games or emo music or something? Just ease into relationships and relax a bit. Don't feel pressured by the media or your peers to worry about sex and marriage right now.

I agree/dissagree with you... I agree that you should worry to much about those things, but when you or your girlfriend want to talk about sex or are thinking about wanting to have sex. I think it deserves a discussion. Yes, you shouldn't feel pressured by the media or your peers, but be real... for a guy who is a relationship, it's only human instinct to want to have sex. If the desire is great enough then I think it is something that should be talked about.

Also, you should think about marriage when your dating. Not that you should be thinking about it ever second, but when dateing someone you should always be on the look-out for things that you would never be able to live with. What's the piont of dateing someone if it's only doomed for failure. If you arn't ever going to get married then why should you be dating/getting attached to people in the first place. There is nothing wrong with being single, but if you don't want to get married EVER then why waste the time? I personally know that I would never date a girl if she told me she never wanted to get married.... I don't know, but marriage is a major goal of mine... I guess it can wait, but some day I deffinily want to get married and have a family just like my parents did except better. If my partner didn't share that goal with me then I would feel as if I was wasting my time, and that eventually I would break-up with them anyways. I would go through all this bullshit breaking up with them for no reason.

If you never want to be married then why would you date in the first place? Why not just fool around with other poeple that don't want to get married?