First Kiss, First boyfriendd., err...what?!?! Options

[chinke3xcuti3]

Have you noticed that "kids" or should I say, "pre-teens", seem to rush into things, like, for example, the first kiss, their first love, etc.

Well, most of my friends have already had the first kiss, I haven't. Most of my friends either WANT a boyfriend, or already HAD a boyfriend, or still has one, none of those go for me. For me, I want my first kiss to be unexpected, and romantic, while all my other friends got thier first kiss in spin the bottle. I'm thirteen, turning fourteen soon, and when I say, "haha..i've never kissed anybody before, except on the cheek," they're all like. "OMFG. ARE YOU SERIOUS?" and start making a big deal out of it. I'm more of the person who just wants to have fun at this age, I'm not ready for commitment, and all that stupid drama. Like, boys have asked me out, but I always reject them, and some people start rumors saying I'm a lesbian JUST because I've never had a boyfriend. I find it kind of stupid how like, they're all rushing into these kind of stuff....I mean, why can't they relax, and take things slow? Sometimes they even make a big deal out of ME not having a boyfriend, or not having my first kiss, and it really irritates me.

So, the question is, How can I send them the message that I'm REALLY not ready for these kind of stuff, but not go bilistic on them, and be like, 'JUST LEAVE ME ALONE'....andd. What do you think of kids these days rushing into everything? ehh..some of the sixth graders at my school has already had sex, and one of the sixth graders was expelled from school because she was pregnant. >.< Oh, and...is it wrong to want to take things at a slow pace or something...because...people freak if you say you've never kissed a boy at this age..

[colleen92]

i feel ya. you're one of the few people our age that doesn't want to be part of the like 5 day "relationship." followed by days of break up "gossip." people think they're mature and ready for all that and they aren't. i hate how people think they're so cool if they have a boyfriend. and the only way to get popular is to kiss a guy.

as for answering your question, when someone tells you they think you're a lesbian, just say, "fck you." haha just kidding. but seriously just tell them you don't want to be sucked into the drama and you'd rather have your first kiss with someone you really like. and i wouldn't be worried about "commitment" because most middle school relationships don't last longer than a month lol