When did you know you were bi/gay/lez?, and how? Options

[broken inside]

I heard most people know when thier young, I'm fourteen, nearly fifteen. I am unsure.

[crazeegirl411]

Yeah... I don't believe that homosexuality/bisexuality is actually REAL. I think it's just something made up in your mind that you believe only because something happened to you... whether it be some devastating event, the enviornment, jealousy, whatever... yep... that's my thought.

It is real...I have read and heard that people that are homosexual possess more of a certain hormone or lack a certain hormone to make them that way. Hence how homosexuals act a little flamboyant? I am not sure about that part, however, so I will not assume.

Okay. This is from the Gay Marriage Debate thingy.

On an ethical point of view, this is clear to me: I am in full support of gay marriage. I am a homosexual myself.

I am rather sure that homosexuality is of a much more biological nature than it is of any environmental nature. I don't recall waking up one day and making a conscious decision to become a homosexual. The biological attraction is what makes me homosexual. Much like any woman has an attraction to a man or vice-versa, it would seem biological, natural, and completely irresistable. It is the exact same for us. When I first felt feelings for someone else of the same gender, there was nothing that told me I should have an attraction to him, in fact I was rather drilled into my head that I shouldn't be having this attraction, but nonetheless I follow my gut instinct that I was born with.

People have asked me when I "figured out" when I was a homosexual. It did not occur to me at a certain time. When you first liked a boy or a girl, I hardly believe it was a conscious decision to suddenly do so. It would seem natural and nearly a blur I suppose. It is the same for us.

I lived a very good childhood. I was not abused, nor neglected. My family was wealthy, I lived in a good environment with a good score of education. I was brought up well and healthy. I am still a homosexual in spite of all of these facts. It is not a choice. The homosexual world is not a place that is easy or completely pleasurable to live through. There is always the prospect of finding others like yourself, and past those filtering those few to be the one person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. There is always the rejection of your family, your friends, your peers. There is always the glaring prospect of the AIDS epidemic. Why, I ask, would anyone in their right mind (which I certainly hope you deem me to be, I certainly do) actively and consciously choose to become a homosexual? It simply wouldn't make sense.

I agree almost completely about everything except the part about someone choosing which gender they would like. True, nobody would CONCIOUSLY choose, but I believe SOME people choose it subconciously.

I don't have one side for this. I believe some were born with that lack of hormones or more of a certain hormone. And then some, were affected by a certain event. Like a male being hurt by females so much that they have come to like the other gender. That may be denial, or perhaps such a mental change that hormones were changed also.

I'm not totally sure about these, and I am sure there are a lot of articles that talk about it with different views, but that's what I think.

I also have a friend that thought he was bi, until he said something about girls hurting him too much. Eventually, he said he was gay, not bi anymore. And I believe him, because he has a lot more female friends and he has not been attracted to any of them since. However, before, he was truly attracted to a friend of mine that was female.

I believe his case is that he was either unsure before, or he has subconciously made a decision to be homosexual. Whereas there are other people truly, BORN to be like that.

What I'm not sure is, when one is unsure or changed, is it because it is a decision, or did something in their body change their hormones?