Does a "break" really help to improve a relationship? Options

[dorkk-ie]

if you were not to talk/see or have any contact with your gf/bf for a week or so, do you think it would help you appreciate each other more? since you're not used to having that one person who's always been there...u realize that it's more important than you think? .. i dunno if i still make sense but ..

my boyfriend is considering we try that approach because lately, we've been in a lot of arguements about silly things, and if this continues, it will just come to a dead end, so he decided to do that "break" i stated above.

do you think that could improve a relationship?

* and for many couples , arguements are inevitable if you plan on a long-term relationship, but do you guys know of any ways we could prevent some unneccesary ones, or lessen the number of arguements.....

and we've talked about this break and our problems already. so the talking approach is done, i'm just waiting to see if this "break" idea actually works.

any suggestions for the arguement part of it? :)

[redpeony]

Hmm, seems like it happens a lot at around the same stage in a lot of relationships, huh? Back in February, me and my boyfriend had been dating for about 6 months and were having these similar arguments: intense, full-fledged that arguments that really resolved nothing but made clear all of the problems that we were experiencing.

I think your break will help you clear your head and give you a clearer perspective of your relationship.

After the break ends, I don't think you just realize that you are missing someone and that you can't be without them and all things are good. I mean, I'm not an expert in relationships or even anything close, but basing a relationship on emotions and passion doesn't seem like the right thing to do. Your problems are still very much there after the break, but you will likely have a greater flexibility in the things that you say and are willing to hear from your boyfriend so that you are able to resolve the problems.

I think the reason for this is because you miss the person so much that you are willing to bend a bit to reassure their presence in your life: you are giving up your pride.

And in the future when you argue, understand that pride simply cannot be an issue if you want a lasting relationship. Sometimes you will think you are right but you have to suck it up and say "okay, you're right, I'm wrong. I'm sorry". If It's over something tiny like being late, talk about it but know when to draw the line and just accept them as who they are.

It's not that you are being a doormat and just giving in to whatever your partner says, but from their perspective, they're right too. And as soon as you loosen up I'm sure he will see what you're doing and start to see it your way and do the same. Because your relationship isn't about who's more justified or who wins the argument, but working things out together and settling on a happy medium, right?