Does a "break" really help to improve a relationship? Options

[dorkk-ie]

if you were not to talk/see or have any contact with your gf/bf for a week or so, do you think it would help you appreciate each other more? since you're not used to having that one person who's always been there...u realize that it's more important than you think? .. i dunno if i still make sense but ..

my boyfriend is considering we try that approach because lately, we've been in a lot of arguements about silly things, and if this continues, it will just come to a dead end, so he decided to do that "break" i stated above.

do you think that could improve a relationship?

* and for many couples , arguements are inevitable if you plan on a long-term relationship, but do you guys know of any ways we could prevent some unneccesary ones, or lessen the number of arguements.....

and we've talked about this break and our problems already. so the talking approach is done, i'm just waiting to see if this "break" idea actually works.

any suggestions for the arguement part of it? :)

[*xcaitlinx*]

ahh i know exactly what you're going through so i can relate. last month, me and my boyfriend went on a break (it was actually only for 5ish days..) because we kept breaking up for stupid crap and fighting constantly. they fights were over silly things and did not have to turn out the way they did. the break actually DID help, because we both realized how miserable and lonely we were without eachother. as soon as the break was over, we become even closer than we were BEFORE the break/fighting. after the break, we basically stopped fighting. yeah, the occasional disagreements still occur, but we make sure that they don't develop into full-out arguing.

we had trouble figuring out ways to prevent unneccessary fights. of course, at first we were like "let's just stop fighting. it's that simple." but really, it isn't. one of the reasons why we fought so much was because we were constantly seeing eachother. and when we weren't with eachother, we were talking on the phone. we stopped talking on the phone less and now that it's summer, i see him every other day. it works out a lot better because we have time to be with our friends and actually MISS each other.

basically what im trying to say is that you and your b/f should go on a break, like me and my b/f did. even if it's for 5-7 days, it will most likely make a difference and bring you closer. you both have to be determined and willing to argue less if you want your relationship to work and last a long time. whenever you feel a fight coming on, just say "i really don't want to fight over this...it's stupid." [that's what i tend to do now] before it gets worse. spend some time with your friends and let him do his own thing for a little while. in the end, if you both are truly meant to be together, you will come back from the break caring for each other even more. good luck!