Does a "break" really help to improve a relationship? Options

[dorkk-ie]

if you were not to talk/see or have any contact with your gf/bf for a week or so, do you think it would help you appreciate each other more? since you're not used to having that one person who's always been there...u realize that it's more important than you think? .. i dunno if i still make sense but ..

my boyfriend is considering we try that approach because lately, we've been in a lot of arguements about silly things, and if this continues, it will just come to a dead end, so he decided to do that "break" i stated above.

do you think that could improve a relationship?

* and for many couples , arguements are inevitable if you plan on a long-term relationship, but do you guys know of any ways we could prevent some unneccesary ones, or lessen the number of arguements.....

and we've talked about this break and our problems already. so the talking approach is done, i'm just waiting to see if this "break" idea actually works.

any suggestions for the arguement part of it? :)

[cassjamminx]

breaks work to some extent.

from my experience (though i've only been in really serious relationship with one break)
.. it lasted a week though we still talked, just not as much. my boyfriend and i usually talk every single day 24-7, and that's why that helped us. we realized how much we missed each other.

or.. the bad end is that you may realize that you don't need to talk/see this person as much as you and you're fine without the person just not as often.

if your goal is a long term relationship, it's true, sometimes pointless arguments over something really silly is sometimes inevitable. i've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we still fight about stupid things, just yesterday i got mad at him because he didn't take me to great america with him when he knew i wanted to go (blah blah blah). though the thing about pointless fights is that (though this may seem impossible, hence why you're fighting) you should try to think about, if we keep fighting, where do i want this to go? what do i expect him to do if i get my way in this fight? is this worth fighting about? those things.

talk things about with your boyfriend regarding the fights. and how you two personally can solve it before it starts. i'm saying this becuase my strageties for fights either may or may not work for you.

when something like that happens my boyfriend will just stop and say "Cassie is this really worth fighting over? think about it." and i do, and i realize it's not. and that's it. we apologize.

i hope that helps. stupid fights are lame, it takes a mistake to realize them. and once you made one, try not to go backwards. keep everything going foward.

about the breaks, it may work. it depends more on the situation. if you want to go on a break because of all your fights, i don't know if that's really going to do anything, it'll stop the fighting for the time being obviously, but i dont know if it'd prevent the silly fights later.

hope this helps, sorry it's so long. i just know where you're coming from.