20 yr old, with complex personality...., never had a real bf Options

[lil_blue04]

ok, so i'm 20 and never had a boyfriend before. And i think that the reason is because I just don't know how to act around guys. Whenever I meet a guy I like, I start acting weird around him and it's like if i have a multiple personality disorder or something. My best friend tells me that If a guy is really meant for me then he would just adapt to my craziness, but i think that maybe i should just try to change this flaw of mine. what do you guys think?

(P.S. and by acting weird around them i mean, i'm nice to a guy one minute and then the next i'm critisizing him and even making fun of him. Then the next minute we can be just hanging out and having a great time and the next minute i'm shy and avoiding him all together. yeah i know, i'm weird! LOL)

[Mr. Slowjamz]

hmm i think for you its a matter of experience and being more assertive ......if you`ve said you`ve never had a boyfriend before and in most cases always tended to act the way you act like that to ALL the guys you`ve talked with then yea , you just might be a little scared , anxious or nervous ....or in other cases ....you just havent experienced or opened yourself more to move to the next step , thats fine ...i used to have the same problem with girls and always had this held-reaction , and always tended to be a little more timid shy and almost axious around girls even on how much i hold up a regualr conversation with them . but now its alot easier for me to talk to girls ...no matter how much differences we have if you can try to overcome it be alot easier for guys to understand you ....and you wouldnt be chaning your personality at all , its just a matter of communication , and relating . but theres nothing wrong of what the others said , you can wait and anticipate for someone to understand and like you