Long distance: Making it work, going to college Options

[anoniez]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months now, I'm a senior in high school and he's a junior. We're both quite committed and I was wondering about the college long-distance thing. Neither of us want to end it just because I'll be going to college next year, but it's quite a long distance - I'll probably be going to Emory in Atlanta, Georgia- and we're both in Texas right now. It's not like he could drive to see me on the weekends or anything.

On the one hand, I don't want to miss out on anything in college because I'm still tied up back home. Both of us are quite unhappy even over short separations like vacation over winter break and this invariably results in a couple arguments as both of us feel neglected by the other. On the other hand, though, I've been through a really bad breakup before and it almost crushed me, and that relationship had only been 3 months and I hadn't cared for the guy nearly as much as I do for my current bf. I'm afraid that if we break up now I'll really regret it - to tell the truth, I wouldn't mind marrying him (he feels the same). Although of course we aren't considering it that seriously, it's still a nice dream to have =)

One thing I was considering was to transfer to Rice University sophomore year (he'd probably have no trouble getting in next year) and we could both go together. I don't really want to direct where I'm going to college just for him, but with Rice it's a different situation cause I've wanted to go there ever since I was little anyway.

I know what you guys are gonna say: break up with him now, start over in college, etc etc. But I really feel like I have a chance with this guy. So anyone have any tips on how to make it work?

[imthebunny]

my boyfriend is leaving for florida (we live in ohio) and we've been going out for a year and a half (i'm going to be a senior this year). we are both going to try to stick together and make it work. one of my friends just broke up with her bf because they were going to college in different states and she cried for a few days and now she's feeling better. she also felt that her bf wasnt ready for real deep relationship (theyd been together for about 6 months). so i guess it all depends on you, your bf/gf, and your ability to commit. keep in touch, talk to each other, keep in touch, talk to each other, and uhmm....keep in touch. and another important thing is to be understanding. people change. all the time. its a fact of life. especially in college. just keep that in mind, remember to talk to each other, and hope for the best. if it doesnt work out all you can do is cry for a bit, eat lots of ice cream, talk to friends ALOT, and move on. im crossing my fingers [and toes] for you!