What to do?, boyfriend trouble? Anniversary date? Options

[Yvonne't me]

`Kay I have no idea where to start.
Let`see. I have a boyfriend and I really do truely love him. He really means more than anything to me.
Problem though. He's been acting different recently. Or atleast I think so.
We never talk anymore or do anything. I see him Mon-Fri `cause we have work together kind of. We watch little kids. Anyways, we can`t hug each other or anything during work `cause we`d get in trouble. That`s the only time and place I ever see him though. I know you`re all probably thinking just go out during the weekends or something. Long story but that`s no too possible for me. And also we end at night and I can`t go out to the mall after work. The `rents are horrible.

`Kay so apprantly everyone thinks I should talk to him. Some think he ditches me too much for his friends and that I should just drag him away from his friends and make him spend time with me. I just let him hang with his friends though `cause I want him to be happy and do something that he wants to do and not just make him sit there on the side with me. So some think that I`m too much of a pushover. Some think that I`m acting like I don`t care. Like WTHeck. I do care about him I just don`t want him to think I`m clingy, annoying, and/or a "`Omigawsh spend time with me 24/7" kind of girl. I really hope he doesn`t think that I don`t care.

I don`t want to confront him `cause I just don`t do that kind of stuff. I`m terribly afraid that he`ll get mad at me or even hate me. I know you`re probably thinking if he` loves you then he won`t be mad but I`m just really not comfortable confronting him or talking to him about it.

Our anniversary is coming up and it`s not like a really major one like one year or two year etc. anniversary but it still means a lot to me and it`d be nice if we spent a little time together. I really don`t want to go to the mall. I was thinking we could both take off of work early or just spend 30 minutes together after work so I`ll be home before it gets too dark and the `rents won`t be too upset. Where would be a nice place though? Would the park be lame or what? And what would we do there? Just talk? I`m kind of worried that some summer fun programs will still be going on when we go and that will just ruin everything.

By the way, what do you guys think of getting him a present too? I`m not too sure what to get him. If I`m getting him something I don`t want to get him a shirt `cause I got that for him how many times already. And he`s not the mushy lovey dovey card kind of guy either. He says he doesn`t like being showered with gifts so would a gift be a good or bad idea?

[*This Confession*]

Okay, yea you don't want him to find your clingy or annoying or anything, but yet your in a relationship with this guy. I mean you still have a say if you two aren't even spending that much time together, he should take out a little time to spend with you. Of course not lose his relationship with his friends but not lose his relationship with you as well. Relationships take work and if your not up for the challenge then don't get in one. Relationships & love aren't all time consuming of course, but you still need to little time to make your relationship grow. So you need to talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and what you think. If he loves you and you love him you two should know you two should do this.

Love isn't easy, personally I don't think your in love. I think your still growing up and going through these learning relationships and still learing what you truly want out of a guy and knowing this love that you love everything about this one guy.

Love isn't selfish and for some reason I see your boyfriend as that. Hes only thinking of himself in a way and it sounds like hes ignorning you as well and only spending time with his friends and ignoring you. And your boyfriend just wanting to do his own thing and you just letting him its kind of selfish on his part not to want to spend time with you.

Okay anniversary stuff, for gifts always go looking around and the first thing that you see that makes you think of him and that you know he'll love is it pretty much you could always bake something if your good at that, use your talents in your gift as well if he loves you then giving him anything he'll love. and He will appreciate. and if he doesn't then well thats pretty mean. and Selfish once again, love isn't taking and giving.

and going to a park if fine. I mean whats wrong with that. it brings out the inner-kid in everyone and most people love it!

okay to end this. Your probably highly annoyed that I went on and on about this whole love and stuff. But then again Love isn't perfect, love isn't this patch of pretty flowers thats going to great all the time. Love is filled with problems, and if you don't get through them then aparently your not quite cut out for that person in a way. but you have to be really and willing to keep up with them and get through them and work them out.

I wish you luck though.
and I hope everything goes well.


sorry this is pretty long.