ah. paranoia.., how to deal = [ Options

[pinacoolada]

so..my relationship is perfect. Well, of course not perfect but pretty close to it. I'm happy, he's happy, and we love each other. The main glitch:

I overanalyze everything...I worry that he might like someone else, fall-inlove with someone else etc...Then, I question my feelings. "What if I stop liking him" and all that, which is stupid because that just proves that I do like him..so I'm contradicting myself.

But still, I'm always scared about something. I'm always afraid that something may go wrong.


The weird part:
When I'm with him, I'm not scared at all. No worries. Nothing.

How do I stop being scared? Because it seems to me like it's just something that just comes. I can't control it. I think about it then boom, I'm afraid. Help?

[*mipadi*]

Back when I was in high school, I was pretty paranoid, too. I was always afraid that my friends didn't really like me, or they liked everyone better. I was always afraid I was going to lose them. Eventually, my paranoia consumed me to such a degree that I lost almost all of my friends. I remember one night in particular, I was out with a friend of mine—this girl I kind of liked, but who I was only friends with. Anyway, I vented to her, to say the least, about how no one liked me, everyone was against me, blah blah blah. It was a terrible night. She and I didn't hang out again for about a year.

The fact is, sometimes you can't never know how people really feel—but if people don't like you or things are amiss, they'll let you know. Maybe it'll be subtle, but you'll find out. And until you know there's a problem, you might as well not worry, because you can't do anything about a problem that you don't know about.

In retrospect, my paranoia was a sympton, or manifestation, of my insecurity. I think the solution to not being paranoid is to become more comfortable with who you are. You have to realize that you're a great person and people are glad you are their friend.