ah. paranoia.., how to deal = [ Options

[pinacoolada]

so..my relationship is perfect. Well, of course not perfect but pretty close to it. I'm happy, he's happy, and we love each other. The main glitch:

I overanalyze everything...I worry that he might like someone else, fall-inlove with someone else etc...Then, I question my feelings. "What if I stop liking him" and all that, which is stupid because that just proves that I do like him..so I'm contradicting myself.

But still, I'm always scared about something. I'm always afraid that something may go wrong.


The weird part:
When I'm with him, I'm not scared at all. No worries. Nothing.

How do I stop being scared? Because it seems to me like it's just something that just comes. I can't control it. I think about it then boom, I'm afraid. Help?

[Chii]

I don't understand why people always start with "we are so perfect" or "everything is so perfect" or "_____ perfect" then talk about problems. If the relationship is so perfect, why are there problems?

Just let things flow naturally. You're only 14, why worry about things like this? If you two break up, big deal. You'll find someone else, life will go on. So what if you stop liking him? There are other people out in the world.

Don't make your relationship your life.

[pinacoolada]

I don't understand why people always start with "we are so perfect" or "everything is so perfect" or "_____ perfect" then talk about problems. If the relationship is so perfect, why are there problems?

Just let things flow naturally. You're only 14, why worry about things like this? If you two break up, big deal. You'll find someone else, life will go on. So what if you stop liking him? There are other people out in the world.

Don't make your relationship your life.

Ah I guess it is cliche, however there is no other way to describe it. I'm not saying it's perfect, I'm saying it's pretty close to it. I know perfection can't be achieved but still.

Because I really enjoy this relationship and I'm really happy..except worrying is getting in the way of it. I know I'm only 14...so what? "Many fish in the sea" ..but I want this one.

*Sigh*..I just realized that this topic sounds really stupid. Why I did it in the first place, I have yet to question.

I guess being paranoid about this is like saying "I'm afraid I may paint the wall green"

I talk to him about it..and he tells me not to worry about anything, because nothing will go wrong. That comforts me.

Been together for almost 9 months now..he's my first, I guess that's another reason I'm so scared. I don't know what to expect, I don't have any experience..but oh well.

This too shall pass..I hope. It should..I'll make it! haha...

Thanks for the advice guys.