is there such a thing??, ...cLoSe friends... Options

[iminlovewithTomD...]

Well, it seems like everyone in my [small small] school has their BEST FRIEND... at school... all my "school friends" don't really mean everything to me, because i don't seem like i mean much to them... i know you can't force people to love you and junk, but it's hard when your best friend is 2 years older than you, horrendously suicidal, almost ALWAYS grounded and living really far away from you... my only other good friends are my brother (16), who's always doing something or another with one of his friends ('cept sometimes i join them ), and my brother's "ex", who's 16, lives really far away, and hasn't been able to talk on the phone, let alone get online in like a week!

I know it's not anything horrible, but I'm kinda in a tough spot... I mean, it's not like I don't like the good friends I have, In fact, they are the most amazing people in the world!! NO ONE can replace them, but sometimes I get this empty feeling when I'm at school, seeing everybody all bright and cheery, hanging out with their perfect bestest buddies, and all I have are the conversations from last night on the phone stuck in my head, like

me: nicole... how do birds mate?
nicole: well you see, first the male bird poops, then the female bird sits on it!
me: i wish i were a bird...
nicole: whose sh*t would you sit on?
me: will's...

I don't really know... I mean like, is it bad or anything that my best friend is a 15 year old who lives really far away from me who's really suicidal and always grounded? Because sometimes I know I really need to be there for her, but I can't, because her parents ground her for the most random things!!

Ughh! I guess I don't really know what I'm posting! Just a bunch of mixed feelings and thoughts

[LittleFlyingCow]

hey it's alright, I have a simular situation too. I just started going to school this year and I love it, and I love the friends I've made, but everyone seems to have a bestfriend but me, which is depressing when I'm hanging our with them cause they're always joking around with their "best friend" and only seem to talk to me when their "best friend" isn't availible. They don't hang out with their best friends alllll the time tho so that was a bit of an exageration.

Anywho I do have a bestfriend, or at least one I consider to be my bestfriend, I'm not sure if I'm her best friend but I'm at the top anyway :P but she doesnt' go to my school, and I only see her one every two or three weeks.

PLUS I'm switching school's next year (not my choice) so I'm going to have to make friends all over again, which really sucks.

The advice about just talking more with the people you like actually really works. For some reason I never really believe that, or tried it, cause I'm always really quiet, and I figured people who will like me as a friend will just...like me, and people who don't, don't. But that is so incredibly wrong. I've noticed being in school that the people I make an effort to hang out with alot, talk to alot, help out, invite over, sympathize with (etc etc) really do give all that back to me. It's like the saying "first seek to understand, then to be understood” and it's completely true. If you talk to someone, chances are they'll talk to you, and who knows, you could become awesome friends. :)