MY PARENTS.. BREAKING UP?!, please help me!!!! Options

[glitter_jazz09]

Tonight wasn't the first time my mom told us that one day she'll leave us for good. Ever since I was 11, I've already heard her saying how her marriage with my dad is doomed. I've tried telling myself over and over for years that its practically impossible for my parents to split up. My mom used to say that it was nothing to worry about now, because she won't be leaving us until all 3 of us kids are grown up. My older bro's 19, I'm 15 && my lil` brother's 11, sure.. my lil` brother's still young; but what the heck does that matter? I'm not going to count the years until my lil` brother comes of age! I JUST WANT THINGS BETWEEN MY PARENTS TO BE GREAT like it was before life got complicated! I know loads of people who's parents are seperated, and I somehow know how it feels like and how it affects a person. And I really, really don't want that to happen to us. The only comfort zone I have now is knowing that my dad won't allow her to end their marriage, but.. what if he grows tired of it too? I know they're really different in many ways, that fact is smething undeniable even to me. But there's gotta be some solution.. coz even the worst situations have a solution! I can't think of how life would be with seperated parents!!! From where I come from, seperate parents are a BIG THING. When people find out, they just go "tsk tsk" and immediately stereotype the whole family. When my lil` brother and I confronted our mom telling her how it'd affect us if ever she'd push through with her "little idea" (no! its not little.. NOT AT ALL), she told us that she rather leave us kids, than for her to grow old miserable. I understand that it'd be selfish if we try convincing her to stay just for our sake. I mean, if I were in her shoes.. I'd probably think likewise.

I really don't know what to do anymore! A few yrs back, when I'd hear statements like these frm my mom, I would cry my eyes out. But now? Sure, it still hurts like sht, and I've somehow understood more about their marriage through the years.. but I really can't imagine what life would be! How everything would change. I hate change, especially these kinds!


what should I do? and how do I cope with all these things that happen.. OFTEN? My mom says that there has never been a day they didn't argue. I don't know what to do, I feel lost.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

do not ever feel bad that your asking your mom to stay with you because that is her job and she is never suppose to leave your side so dont feel selfish by asking her to stay...what i would do is get your mom and dad and all your bros and sis and talk together as a family with no arguments. (dont bring your lil 11 year old brother tho because he' s to small to hear these kind of things) if things dont work out it wasnt your fault..but really tell your parents to stop being selfish and only thinkin about themselves tell them to think a moment and think about what you guys are going through how much this situation is affecting you. Im sorry i have to tell you this but your mom is really mean when she tells you these things at such an early age.. im really sorry you had to suffer through that